I'm Khady,
I know that I'm not pretty.
/file 0002
/tc 01:00:36:12 01:00:38:17
Many women are
prettier than I am,
/file 0003
/tc 01:00:39:04 01:00:40:02
but I know
/file 0004
/tc 01:00:40:06 01:00:43:02
that my talking
pleases men.
/file 0005
/tc 01:00:57:08 01:01:01:05
I don't make my life difficult.
I take it as it goes.
/file 0006
/tc 01:01:01:10 01:01:06:05
When I get along well with a man,
we stay together.
/file 0007
/tc 01:01:06:12 01:01:08:11
When it's not working anymore,
we divorce.
/file 0008
/tc 01:01:08:16 01:01:10:17
He can be wealthy or not
it doesn't matter.
/file 0009
/tc 01:01:10:22 01:01:12:18
If he leaves, I forget him.
/file 0010
/tc 01:01:23:11 01:01:27:09
I'm a strong woman.
/file 0011
/tc 01:01:30:04 01:01:33:02
Convinced to be stronger
than many men.
/file 0012
/tc 01:03:39:00 01:03:41:11
There is the little ear,
/file 0013
/tc 01:03:45:08 01:03:47:06
the book,
/file 0014
/tc 01:03:52:15 01:03:55:09
the bride,
/file 0015
/tc 01:03:59:10 01:04:02:04
the shoulders, the belly,
/file 0016
/tc 01:04:12:04 01:04:13:19
the hips,
/file 0017
/tc 01:04:20:01 01:04:23:16
there is Azeiba, the little virgin,
/file 0018
/tc 01:04:26:10 01:04:28:20
the baby bird,
/file 0019
/tc 01:04:30:09 01:04:33:06
the "five".
/file 0020
/tc 01:05:04:23 01:05:09:07
My body belongs to
Sidi Mohamed.
/file 0021
/tc 01:05:09:12 01:05:15:18
He bought it with his money.
/file 0022
/tc 01:05:16:08 01:05:19:04
It doesn't belong to me.
/file 0023
/tc 01:05:23:00 01:05:27:16
A woman's body belongs
to a man... What are you talking about!
/file 0024
/tc 01:05:28:13 01:05:32:13
And a man's body should belong to
a woman but it's not the case.
/file 0025
/tc 01:05:37:00 01:05:40:19
When you'll be married, your husband
will tell you that your body belongs to him.
/file 0026
/tc 01:05:42:22 01:05:47:09
The other one left it.
It belongs to me now.
/file 0027
/tc 01:05:47:21 01:05:49:21
I use it as I see fit.
/file 0028
/tc 01:05:51:23 01:05:54:10
I could only take my body back
if Mohamed
/file 0029
/tc 01:05:54:15 01:05:55:16
gives it back to me.
/file 0030
/tc 01:05:55:22 01:05:58:13
If he divorces me,
then I could get it back.
/file 0031
/tc 01:05:58:18 01:06:02:15
As long as we stay together,
my body will belong to him.
/file 0032
/tc 01:06:06:06 01:06:09:02
And you ?
Who owns your body ?
/file 0033
/tc 01:07:33:22 01:07:36:07
Next to you, it must be level.
/file 0034
/tc 01:07:38:23 01:07:43:00
You must coat regularly.
/file 0035
/tc 01:07:44:08 01:07:49:04
It must be reinforced in the middle.
/file 0036
/tc 01:07:49:09 01:07:51:06
You are very difficult.
Yes, that's it...
/file 0037
/tc 01:08:04:19 01:08:07:03
When want my husband,
/file 0038
/tc 01:08:07:08 01:08:10:06
I take him in my arms,
and I hold him tight.
/file 0039
/tc 01:08:10:11 01:08:15:13
I tell him: "I want you".
And he obliges.
/file 0040
/tc 01:08:18:00 01:08:20:04
I can't.
/file 0041
/tc 01:08:24:20 01:08:28:11
I don't understand the question.
/file 0042
/tc 01:08:35:11 01:08:37:13
No, I can't answer that question.
/file 0043
/tc 01:08:39:04 01:08:41:13
I tell him:
"Mohamed, I need you".
/file 0044
/tc 01:08:41:19 01:08:44:06
And he does what I ask him to do.
/file 0045
/tc 01:08:49:10 01:08:51:11
I'm not like her.
/file 0046
/tc 01:11:28:19 01:11:33:07
In our culture, the first marriage
is decided by the parents.
/file 0047
/tc 01:11:34:04 01:11:38:04
It's dictated by religion,
the parents decide.
/file 0048
/tc 01:11:38:23 01:11:43:03
She waits the day when
a man from a good family
/file 0049
/tc 01:11:43:08 01:11:46:03
goes to her parents.
/file 0050
/tc 01:11:46:10 01:11:52:09
Quite often, she and the promised one
have never seen one another.
/file 0051
/tc 01:11:54:00 01:11:58:12
It's to avoid temptations
that we marry them early.
/file 0052
/tc 01:11:58:22 01:12:02:22
When they discover what temptations are,
they're already married.
/file 0053
/tc 01:12:03:12 01:12:05:16
It's better that way.
/file 0054
/tc 01:12:06:02 01:12:09:23
Here, it's rare for a young woman
to have a boyfriend.
/file 0055
/tc 01:12:10:20 01:12:15:20
Men prefer to wed when it's cold.
/file 0056
/tc 01:12:16:17 01:12:18:19
And not during the warm season.
/file 0057
/tc 01:12:21:00 01:12:24:04
I wanted to get married.
/file 0058
/tc 01:12:25:00 01:12:29:01
My friends were talking about
men and marriage.
/file 0059
/tc 01:12:29:14 01:12:32:10
I wanted to be like them.
/file 0060
/tc 01:12:34:04 01:12:36:13
My mother came to see me
and told me :
/file 0061
/tc 01:12:36:18 01:12:40:00
"Now you became a woman,
/file 0062
/tc 01:12:40:05 01:12:43:07
you take good care of the household,
we're going to marry you".
/file 0063
/tc 01:12:44:09 01:12:48:12
I didn't answer.
/file 0064
/tc 01:12:49:23 01:12:52:17
The first marriage is
the parents responsability.
/file 0065
/tc 01:12:55:08 01:12:59:09
After the first one,
the woman can
/file 0066
/tc 01:13:00:01 01:13:02:21
marry who she wishes to,
without her parents' consent.
/file 0067
/tc 01:13:03:10 01:13:06:17
If it's what she wants.
/file 0068
/tc 01:13:58:21 01:14:02:21
My first husband worked with me
at the clinic.
/file 0069
/tc 01:14:07:04 01:14:10:17
When we became husband and wife,
/file 0070
/tc 01:14:11:13 01:14:16:19
I realized that
I didn't love him.
/file 0071
/tc 01:14:18:12 01:14:21:19
We didn't stay together very long.
/file 0072
/tc 01:14:22:00 01:14:24:20
Two years or so.
/file 0073
/tc 01:14:26:01 01:14:28:11
He finally left,
/file 0074
/tc 01:14:28:16 01:14:32:13
pretending that he couldn't accept
that his wife
/file 0075
/tc 01:14:32:18 01:14:35:14
came to him every other night.
/file 0076
/tc 01:14:36:09 01:14:40:04
At last, he sent a letter
to my parents,
/file 0077
/tc 01:14:40:18 01:14:43:14
to tell them that
he wanted to divorce me.
/file 0078
/tc 01:15:01:20 01:15:07:00
The second one was a soldier,
/file 0079
/tc 01:15:07:05 01:15:08:23
he never had time.
He left.
/file 0080
/tc 01:15:10:18 01:15:13:09
The third one was not
from Oualata.
/file 0081
/tc 01:15:13:14 01:15:15:23
He was a mason who
came here for work.
/file 0082
/tc 01:15:16:03 01:15:19:00
When he finished his work,
/file 0083
/tc 01:15:19:17 01:15:22:20
he left and promissed me that
he would come back, he never did.
/file 0084
/tc 01:15:23:03 01:15:26:08
The fourth one is the father of my child.
/file 0085
/tc 01:15:40:16 01:15:43:10
The first one tried to impose
his sister's will.
/file 0086
/tc 01:15:43:21 01:15:47:18
His sister dominated him
and all he did
/file 0087
/tc 01:15:48:16 01:15:51:21
was to please her.
/file 0088
/tc 01:15:52:08 01:15:55:09
With the others, I came
to a point where
/file 0089
/tc 01:15:55:14 01:15:58:20
I couldn't stand them anymore.
/file 0090
/tc 01:15:59:11 01:16:02:17
They behaved badly with me.
/file 0091
/tc 01:16:03:04 01:16:05:06
I gave them their money's worth.
/file 0092
/tc 01:16:09:19 01:16:13:23
When we don't get along,
I give it all up.
/file 0093
/tc 01:16:15:13 01:16:18:03
And if he talks to me,
/file 0094
/tc 01:16:18:08 01:16:20:17
I don't hesitate to give
him a beating.
/file 0095
/tc 01:16:25:06 01:16:28:02
I got married five times.
/file 0096
/tc 01:16:29:09 01:16:32:05
Me, I had five marriages.
/file 0097
/tc 01:20:03:08 01:20:06:02
There is the bride,
/file 0098
/tc 01:20:07:16 01:20:08:12
the shoulders,
/file 0099
/tc 01:20:10:21 01:20:12:19
the belly,
/file 0100
/tc 01:20:14:18 01:20:18:08
there is Azeiba,
the little virgin,
/file 0101
/tc 01:20:20:13 01:20:22:17
there is the baby bird,
/file 0102
/tc 01:20:24:08 01:20:26:09
the little ear,
/file 0103
/tc 01:20:30:02 01:20:32:00
the book,
/file 0104
/tc 01:20:35:19 01:20:37:17
the "five".
/file 0105
/tc 01:21:21:05 01:21:23:03
Just a little,
/file 0106
/tc 01:21:23:13 01:21:25:11
we're almost there...
/file 0107
/tc 01:21:26:08 01:21:28:06
A little more...
/file 0108
/tc 01:22:57:02 01:23:01:02
A man and a woman get married
to have children.
/file 0109
/tc 01:23:02:10 01:23:06:04
What else would it be for ?
/file 0110
/tc 01:23:08:00 01:23:10:03
The most important thing for
a woman is to have children.
/file 0111
/tc 01:23:10:08 01:23:12:02
Does marriage without
children matter?
/file 0112
/tc 01:23:13:23 01:23:15:11
She's certainly a woman.
/file 0113
/tc 01:23:15:20 01:23:20:01
Although the meaning of
womanhood is to have children.
/file 0114
/tc 01:23:21:01 01:23:23:09
If she doesn't have any,
she doesn't live.
/file 0115
/tc 01:23:24:11 01:23:26:07
It's not a woman.
/file 0116
/tc 01:23:29:13 01:23:31:17
She's depraved.
/file 0117
/tc 01:23:37:12 01:23:42:09
He still wants children.
I don't...
/file 0118
/tc 01:23:42:14 01:23:45:00
And if God decides otherwise,
I can't do anything about it.
/file 0119
/tc 01:24:17:16 01:24:24:12
Our clinic is not equiped
for abortions.
/file 0120
/tc 01:24:24:20 01:24:28:14
And in no case would I do one.
/file 0121
/tc 01:24:28:18 01:24:32:04
Despite the large demand.
/file 0122
/tc 01:24:32:19 01:24:38:18
At the clinic,
I can't do anyting for them.
/file 0123
/tc 01:24:39:05 01:24:44:10
I can't do anything for these women.
It's forbiden.
/file 0124
/tc 01:24:45:14 01:24:50:02
If it were known,
there would be an investigation
/file 0125
/tc 01:24:50:07 01:24:57:01
and she could be arrested
by the police.
/file 0126
/tc 01:24:58:01 01:25:00:19
Some do it at home,
/file 0127
/tc 01:25:00:23 01:25:04:19
or elsewhere...
/file 0128
/tc 01:25:05:20 01:25:07:23
But never at the clinic.
/file 0129
/tc 01:25:08:18 01:25:18:15
Others give it their best efforts,
wishing to abort.
/file 0130
/tc 01:25:19:01 01:25:22:18
Once, I fell down voluntarily
from a trunk,
/file 0131
/tc 01:25:23:17 01:25:27:12
where I was painting,
/file 0132
/tc 01:25:27:23 01:25:31:08
and I succeded in aborting.
/file 0133
/tc 01:29:31:14 01:29:33:14
She brought back jewels...
/file 0134
/tc 01:29:33:16 01:29:35:17
Yes, she brought back garments.
/file 0135
/tc 01:29:38:11 01:29:41:18
Some khôl, some perls,
and other things.
/file 0136
/tc 01:29:42:04 01:29:45:05
The price of the qiad varies
from 5000 to 6000 ouiguya.
/file 0137
/tc 01:29:45:23 01:29:47:20
The fabric, it's qiad, isn't it ?
/file 0138
/tc 01:29:48:01 01:29:50:13
The ones who have money to spend
can go check it out.
/file 0139
/tc 01:29:51:23 01:29:54:10
There is some "gauze" as well.
/file 0140
/tc 01:29:54:15 01:29:58:09
You know, I just recieved a qiad
that I wish to sell.
/file 0141
/tc 01:29:58:11 01:29:59:06
You sell it ?
/file 0142
/tc 01:29:59:08 01:30:02:07
I also received a pretty qiad
/file 0143
/tc 01:30:02:09 01:30:04:03
How is it that qiad ?
/file 0144
/tc 01:30:05:02 01:30:10:12
Many say that the end of ramadan
is on the 27th.
/file 0145
/tc 01:30:19:06 01:30:22:23
You look anxious.
You must be thinking of him ?
/file 0146
/tc 01:30:23:01 01:30:23:18
Yes,
/file 0147
/tc 01:30:23:20 01:30:26:00
he's still not back.
/file 0148
/tc 01:30:26:02 01:30:27:10
Not yet ?
/file 0149
/tc 01:30:28:09 01:30:31:06
It has been a month and a half
since he's been back.
/file 0150
/tc 01:30:31:11 01:30:35:13
Many things have
happened since.
/file 0151
/tc 01:30:36:00 01:30:40:21
A month and a half he's been gone,
he must have things to do.
/file 0152
/tc 01:30:41:00 01:30:42:22
Probably, yes, many things
to take care of at home…
/file 0153
/tc 01:30:43:07 01:30:46:17
At home ?
Which "home" do you mean ?
/file 0154
/tc 01:30:47:13 01:30:49:20
You think that she'll go find him ?
/file 0155
/tc 01:30:51:02 01:30:54:15
You know, it's supposedly over
between them, it's final.
/file 0156
/tc 01:30:54:17 01:31:00:02
In the end, what kind of woman
would follow such a frivoluous man ?
/file 0157
/tc 01:31:00:04 01:31:03:17
And dirt poor on top of it !
/file 0158
/tc 01:31:03:19 01:31:09:06
Tell me,
it doesn't make any sense...
/file 0159
/tc 01:31:10:21 01:31:14:16
It's true that some women
don't know what they're looking for.
/file 0160
/tc 01:31:15:05 01:31:20:11
They don't know what they wan't.
/file 0161
/tc 01:31:22:10 01:31:26:00
They would be capable to go out
with the first one to come.
/file 0162
/tc 01:31:34:12 01:31:37:21
I'm happy to be a married woman
/file 0163
/tc 01:31:38:02 01:31:40:18
who still loves men,
/file 0164
/tc 01:31:41:00 01:31:45:15
who has one who
protects her from adultary.
/file 0165
/tc 01:31:45:23 01:31:47:23
I don't look for men.
/file 0166
/tc 01:31:48:18 01:31:50:18
I don't give them the look.
/file 0167
/tc 01:31:50:22 01:31:52:22
And I wouldn't do
anything bad with them.
/file 0168
/tc 01:31:53:01 01:31:56:12
Above all, I'm simply happy
to be a mother.
/file 0169
/tc 01:31:57:13 01:32:01:15
I would never do what's
against our customs.
/file 0170
/tc 01:32:02:10 01:32:07:02
A woman can't go around a house
where there are only men.
/file 0171
/tc 01:32:08:04 01:32:12:09
When I'm married to a man,
I'm all his.
/file 0172
/tc 01:32:12:23 01:32:16:20
The others, I forget them
they cease to exist for me.
/file 0173
/tc 01:32:18:07 01:32:21:03
He's the only one that counts.
/file 0174
/tc 01:32:22:15 01:32:28:01
We consider that women
are weak,
/file 0175
/tc 01:32:28:07 01:32:35:02
but some women
are stronger than men.
/file 0176
/tc 01:32:35:20 01:32:37:23
Unfortunately,
they are easily destabilized.
/file 0177
/tc 01:32:38:01 01:32:41:11
Things that bother women
don't especially bother men.
/file 0178
/tc 01:32:42:10 01:32:46:06
They're afraid
to have a bad reputation.
/file 0179
/tc 01:32:46:17 01:32:51:01
It is different for men.
/file 0180
/tc 01:32:51:20 01:32:54:03
Unlike men.
/file 0181
/tc 01:32:54:11 01:32:58:11
You keep men company,
you should know them.
/file 0182
/tc 01:33:47:15 01:33:50:07
In Oualata, women know how to
wait for men.
/file 0183
/tc 01:33:50:19 01:33:58:00
Here, a woman knows that her husband
can be gone for a year or two.
/file 0184
/tc 01:33:58:05 01:33:59:15
She must await his return.
/file 0185
/tc 01:34:00:02 01:34:02:11
When a woman gets married,
/file 0186
/tc 01:34:02:16 01:34:06:15
she's aware of that reality.
/file 0187
/tc 01:34:07:16 01:34:11:13
Even if her husband
leaves for months, even years,
/file 0188
/tc 01:34:12:00 01:34:14:16
she'll remain his wife.
/file 0189
/tc 01:34:15:01 01:34:17:17
It's like that.
/file 0190
/tc 01:34:19:06 01:34:23:08
She doesn't need to be
given an education,
/file 0191
/tc 01:34:23:16 01:34:26:15
or taught how to behave.
/file 0192
/tc 01:34:27:00 01:34:32:06
What matters, is what she sees
and what she hears.
/file 0193
/tc 01:34:34:12 01:34:37:06
Men come and go.
/file 0194
/tc 01:34:38:10 01:34:45:16
Many women wait for men
to come to them,
/file 0195
/tc 01:34:46:00 01:34:49:05
and their occupations
revolve around that.
/file 0196
/tc 01:34:49:08 01:34:51:11
Some don't respect themselves.
/file 0197
/tc 01:34:51:21 01:34:55:02
They don't wait,
they go towards men.
/file 0198
/tc 01:36:14:11 01:36:16:16
God bless, I manage.
/file 0199
/tc 01:36:16:21 01:36:20:01
I work at the clinic
where I earn some money.
/file 0200
/tc 01:36:20:13 01:36:23:03
I play congos and
it brings in a little more.
/file 0201
/tc 01:36:24:04 01:36:29:08
I've also got a good relationship
with my brother. Thank god.
/file 0202
/tc 01:36:31:01 01:36:34:20
My brother, god bless him,
looks after me.
/file 0203
/tc 01:36:35:15 01:36:40:06
He takes care of me
like no one hopes for.
/file 0204
/tc 01:36:41:02 01:36:44:15
My husband, god bless him,
does what he can.
/file 0205
/tc 01:36:45:13 01:36:50:06
On my end, I work
and make a living.
/file 0206
/tc 01:36:51:05 01:36:53:19
My husband contributes.
/file 0207
/tc 01:36:54:08 01:36:58:02
But he doesn't make a lot,
he's a workman.
/file 0208
/tc 01:36:59:01 01:37:03:11
He brings back everything he makes.
/file 0209
/tc 01:37:04:14 01:37:07:20
He can't be called a store.
/file 0210
/tc 01:37:08:00 01:37:11:22
It's small,
just a modest occupation.
/file 0211
/tc 01:37:12:17 01:37:19:06
I dream to make it grow and
make a lot of money.
/file 0212
/tc 01:37:19:11 01:37:24:22
I'm going to open a real store
and become a business woman.
/file 0213
/tc 01:37:25:15 01:37:31:21
I dream to build a market
and make a fortune.
/file 0214
/tc 01:37:34:05 01:37:39:05
This month, I have a lot of work.
I've never had this much.
/file 0215
/tc 01:37:39:11 01:37:43:20
There is the end of ramadan
and there are many tarkhas.
/file 0216
/tc 01:37:45:00 01:37:48:07
Talking about tarkhas,
I don't consider it a real job.
/file 0217
/tc 01:37:49:12 01:37:55:03
I can't give it up.
/file 0218
/tc 01:37:56:01 01:38:00:17
It's thanks to it
that I'm independent.
/file 0219
/tc 01:38:00:23 01:38:04:17
Even alone,
I can provide for my own needs.
/file 0220
/tc 01:38:06:01 01:38:09:03
I don't do them for everybody.
/file 0221
/tc 01:38:10:02 01:38:14:08
I do hairdressing,
I do henna and I do tarkha.
/file 0222
/tc 01:38:28:06 01:38:30:00
Here in Oualata,
/file 0223
/tc 01:38:30:12 01:38:34:00
women paint them.
/file 0224
/tc 01:38:34:05 01:38:38:04
There is a lot of decency
behind these paintings.
/file 0225
/tc 01:38:48:07 01:38:53:15
When there is a celebration to come,
the end of ramadan for exemple,
/file 0226
/tc 01:38:53:20 01:38:58:00
we decorate houses with tarkhas.
/file 0227
/tc 01:39:00:02 01:39:04:17
We also decorate it when
someone is coming back.
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/tc 01:39:17:00 01:39:18:16
Men love that.
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/tc 01:39:19:03 01:39:20:21
At this time of year,
they're coming back
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/tc 01:39:21:07 01:39:24:01
and almost every
house is decorated.
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/tc 01:43:15:13 01:43:18:13
You must take care of the cattle
when I'm not there.
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/tc 01:43:18:19 01:43:21:18
I gave them all they needed !
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/tc 01:43:22:14 01:43:27:15
Take some tea
and come closer.
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/tc 01:43:30:02 01:43:32:18
I make excellent mint tea
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/tc 01:43:32:23 01:43:34:18
and you should react.
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/tc 01:43:37:14 01:43:43:03
If you don't touch me,
I'm going to touch you.
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/tc 01:44:15:04 01:44:20:02
When I fell in love
with Mohamed,
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/tc 01:44:21:14 01:44:26:12
I started to send him signs
and try to attract his attention.
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/tc 01:44:31:15 01:44:33:11
Here, it's not correct.
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/tc 01:44:34:00 01:44:37:12
She can't say : I love you.
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/tc 01:44:37:16 01:44:40:09
Body language doesn't lie.
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/tc 01:44:41:22 01:44:44:19
When one in love, it shows.
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/tc 01:44:45:13 01:44:48:13
I used all the tricks
that women have
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/tc 01:44:48:17 01:44:49:19
to seduce men.
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/tc 01:44:50:02 01:44:53:11
He came to propose.
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/tc 01:44:54:05 01:44:56:10
I was very happy and I accepted.
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/tc 01:44:58:18 01:45:01:08
And he married me.
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/tc 01:45:06:10