SENSITIVE SOULS POSTSCRIPT
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SENSITIVE SOULS - 2014
Anja Dalhoff dur. 58:23
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Sensitive Souls
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A film by Anja Dalhoff
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Cecilie
4 months old
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Foetal Alcohol Syndrome is a pattern
of permanent brain damage -
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- caused by the mother's alcohol
consumption during pregnancy
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An estimated 100 children a year
are born in Denmark with FAS.
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And many more children are born
with less pronounced alcohol damage.
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Cecilie
21 years old
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Treat someone for long enough
as if they're stupid -
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- and they'll end up that way.
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You get to be like
the people around you.
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If they're normal,
you end up normal.
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My mum's dead.
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Jonas
21 years old
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She died a while after I was born.
I think she died from alcohol.
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Cecilie lives in a group home
for disabled people
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The sun's a bit too bright.
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As well as FAS, -
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- I have something known
as hypersensitivity.
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It means I shut myself away.
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I like places that are really dark.
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So I live with my blinds down
most of the time.
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Loads of people just can't understand
why I am like that.
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But it gives me
the peace and security I need.
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That's better!
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This is a group home
but I mostly stay in my room.
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I like being alone
and I am happiest alone.
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This is our kitchen-dining room.
Nine of us share it.
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It's not that I object to the others.
But I prefer being on my own.
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I have a girlfriend.
Her name's Pernille.
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She's got a really nice flat.
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When we've been on holiday
we make a video with music -
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- to show
what a happy holiday it's been.
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The video also tells other people
what's going on in our lives.
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When we're out and about people
look at us as if we aren't normal.
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I don't have Down's but
I do have an alcohol foetus system.
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Like my brain got damaged
when I was in my mum's tummy.
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My mum drinked alcohol while
I was developing in her tummy.
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It went into the baby's body -
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- and damaged my brain
and now I can't read -
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- and I can't hear and
I had a cleft palate.
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I love you just the way you are, though.
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Thank you!
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It's Sunday, it's spring,
and it is snowing ...
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Cecilie is visiting
her foster parents
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- It's certainly snowing, mum.
- It certainly is.
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Helle Holck
Cecilie's foster mother
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No need to go to Greenland!
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Gosh, it's beautiful!
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I was born two months prematurely
with FAS at Hvidovre Hospital.
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I was taken to Skodsborg orphanage.
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I was really poorly,
with lots of withdrawal symptoms.
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I was oversensitive to noise, light,
and people touching me.
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Mum drank heavily while she was
pregnant, and also took drugs.
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After nearly two years at Skodsborg -
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- I was big and healthy enough
for fostering.
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Luckily Skodsborg found a family for me.
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Mum, they say it's going to snow all week.
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Who's that?
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My mum.
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- And what's her name?
- Mona.
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- Where is Mona now?
- Up in heaven.
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- Why is she in heaven, Cecilie?
- Because she was ill.
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- And what happened to her?
- She died.
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- And where did you go then?
- To my new mum.
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You came to get me.
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Jonas lives with Lise Friismose,
his adoptive mother.
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You had no language,
just these high-pitched noises ...
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Your first sound was "eena!"
Like, "Jonas!"
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Orphanage,
Romania
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There you stood,
Jonas all alone in the world.
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They told us you were there
because of your cleft palate.
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Your parents couldn't
look after you.
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I took photos before you had
your operation to show the hole.
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This is you
under anaesthetic.
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No wonder the food
ran out of your nose!
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We were not prepared. They had
told us you were hale and hearty.
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But the Danish hospital thought
your mum had been a heavy drinker.
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And that was
why you had all these defects.
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Your hearing was impaired.
Your auditory canals are very narrow.
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Maybe they were damaged, too.
And you had a cleft palate.
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I was so looking forward
to having a baby on my lap.
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But you wouldn't
sit still for a second.
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Unfortunately!
But it wasn't your fault.
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I tried to cuddle you
but that was worst of all.
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You couldn't bear being touched.
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I didn't realise that at the time.
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You were used to
lying all on your own.
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There you're asleep
... but not for long.
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I've still got ants in my pants.
I go for bike rides to calm down.
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And to be alone for a bit.
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- That helps.
- A lot.
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It's good that you've found
a way of helping yourself.
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There's something
I'd like to show you.
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There's a scene in this film -
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- that makes me wonder -
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- what things'd have been like
if mum was still alive.
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If I'd had my mum and lived with her
and she still had her issues -
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- this is probably
what would've happened.
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Take good care of it.
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Don't lose it.
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Show it to your grandfather
and he'll know who you are.
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- I don't want it.
- Go and find him!
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Be off with you!
I am about to die.
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She was about to die and
she gave her daughter a treasure.
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She told her to find her grandparents
so they could look after her.
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That'd probably have happened to me
if my mum hadn't died back then.
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Christina Bergstrøm
Cecilie's biological step-sister
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- I want to pop into the shop.
- What for?
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The roses.
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Johanne Eugenius
Cecilie's birth mother's sister
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What does it say?
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That she was acquitted
of killing her husband.
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It says she was acting
in self-defence.
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Defending herself
and her unborn child.
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- "Pregnant mum kills husband."
- She was 27 years old.
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It says she came to Copenhagen
ten years ago, in 1977.
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That was when she was expecting me.
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When Mona was pregnant with me
she was a junkie but didn't drink.
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So I was born an addict and
had to go through withdrawal.
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But it's better to be a junkie
than to be an alcoholic.
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Because the brain damage
is more permanent.
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- As a junkie?
- As an alcoholic.
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And back then she didn't drink as
much as when she was carrying you.
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With me she drank
several litres of vodka a day.
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It just shows how hard her life was.
You don't do that if you're happy.
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She shouldn't have been
allowed to have me at all.
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No. That's true.
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It's not that I am not
happy to be alive, but ...
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But life is hard ...
with all the problems you've had.
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There are times
when I feel really bad, too.
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But for me
it's just much, much, much ...
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- Worse.
- All the time.
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It's OK to feel like that,
what with our backgrounds, right?
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There are lots of times when
I don't want to live any longer.
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I know.
Like the last time I came to see you.
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Remember? You wanted to
throw yourself in the harbour.
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It's kind of nice
when I'm alone at home -
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- with nothing to do -
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- and feeling a bit low,
to get up in the morning -
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- to go to work and see
all the great people here.
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Is this where the cauliflowers go?
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- Oh my God! No leaves!
- Let's move these!
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- Where shall we put them?
- Out front.
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At first having to learn all the
new stuff was hard, but it came, -
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- and soon I knew
how to do everything.
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- Can you push it?
- I reckon so.
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- Hi, mum!
- How was work?
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I got an invitation.
To a party.
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- From someone at work.
- Oh? Who?
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Someone called Pernille and Malene.
Because they've finished their jobs.
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- So they're having a little party.
- How lovely! When is it?
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- On 18 August I think.
- That's really nice.
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So you'll need to give
the girls a present.
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If you spend 100 kroner
that'll be nice and generous.
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That'll still leave 400 kroner for
you to spend on yourself next week.
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I mean for your shopping
or if you want to go out.
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I would like some sweets, too.
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And to write a note to dear mum!
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If I write "d-e"
it sounds like there's an "i" in it.
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- But there isn't.
- It's just the way it's spelt.
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- And that's how it sounds.
- But it really is "d-e".
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Where I'm living now they don't
really have any values to give me.
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That's why I'm going to move out.
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Mum told me something -
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- that has made me realise
what I really enjoy.
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I like acting and singing and dancing
and painting and sketching -
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- and important stuff like that.
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If you must know, I don't really
think it's good enough.
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The acting and the art and being
a writer: those are my passions.
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There it is!
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Come ride with me tonight
0173: IN: 00:16:58:14 OUT: 00:17:01:14
Come on baby, hold me tight
0174: IN: 00:17:15:13 OUT: 00:17:20:18
It took me three hours to draw that
one because there were hands in it.
0175: IN: 00:17:20:22 OUT: 00:17:24:16
Of course they say "Wow, how neat!
Wow, you are so good!"
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But they don't say "Shall we try
to get you into art college?"
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I don't belong here,
I never have and I never will.
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It'll be nice to get out of here.
This prison.
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I'll be leaving home soon, so I've
been learning how to cope on my own.
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What else do you need?
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- A basket?
- That's right.
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And these ...
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And a carrier bag ...
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We learn how to wash up and cook
and various things.
0185: IN: 00:18:11:08 OUT: 00:18:14:23
- What do we do first?
- Wash our hands.
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It doesn't say how long
you have to whip the cream for ...
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Mette Møller
Educationist
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- You just go on whipping it.
- I'm afraid ...
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- It'll turn into butter?
- Yes.
0190: IN: 00:18:26:19 OUT: 00:18:29:09
You'd like me to watch?
OK.
0191: IN: 00:18:30:07 OUT: 00:18:32:23
It's spattering everywhere.
0192: IN: 00:18:34:11 OUT: 00:18:40:23
- They're visiting each other, right?
- Visiting? Why?
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There is vanilla in it.
You want to add even more, I know!
0194: IN: 00:18:46:04 OUT: 00:18:50:03
The vanilla sniffer!
Easy does it!
0195: IN: 00:18:50:20 OUT: 00:18:54:16
Because there's already some
vanilla in it. Oh, all right then!
0196: IN: 00:18:54:20 OUT: 00:18:57:09
I have to keep my eye on you two.
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- We have to watch you, too!
- Katrine, that's a lot of gunk.
0198: IN: 00:19:01:07 OUT: 00:19:05:16
- There's enough for one each.
- There certainly is.
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I'll give you a bit of a hand.
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Does it fit?
Oh, yes, it does!
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- Is something wrong, Katrine?
- Do this to it.
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Why? You'll spoil it!
It's a lovely cake.
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There's a lid missing.
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Never mind.
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Oh, no, it's almost seven o'clock!
I haven't had my supper!
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And I haven't made
any coffee or anything.
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I'd better get a move on.
0208: IN: 00:20:02:23 OUT: 00:20:04:02
There.
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Come in!
0210: IN: 00:20:26:10 OUT: 00:20:28:02
- Hi, Cecilie.
- Hi, daddy!
0211: IN: 00:20:28:06 OUT: 00:20:30:07
Happy birthday!
0212: IN: 00:20:30:11 OUT: 00:20:33:11
Per Holck
Cecilie's foster father
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Dad, I can't see over
that sheet of wood.
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I can see a blue car ...
and mum and Christina and Bo.
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Thank you!
They can go with the white ones.
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- Hi, mum!
- Happy birthday!
0217: IN: 00:20:54:00 OUT: 00:20:58:17
- Have you got a present table?
- Yes, over there.
0218: IN: 00:21:03:15 OUT: 00:21:08:00
Thanks ...Now I'm up to 700!
0219: IN: 00:21:08:04 OUT: 00:21:09:00
Wow!
0220: IN: 00:21:09:04 OUT: 00:21:13:14
Plus 1000 kroner ... that makes 2100.
0221: IN: 00:21:13:18 OUT: 00:21:17:11
Towards my trip to Greenland.
0222: IN: 00:21:17:15 OUT: 00:21:22:06
I swear I won't touch it till then.
Though it'll be tough.
0223: IN: 00:21:23:19 OUT: 00:21:29:02
I've been living in this community
for seven months and it's great.
0224: IN: 00:21:29:06 OUT: 00:21:33:09
I've learned loads
and I've got a bunch of good mates -
0225: IN: 00:21:33:13 OUT: 00:21:37:15
- and good friends.
0226: IN: 00:21:44:07 OUT: 00:21:46:17
The best thing about living here -
0227: IN: 00:21:46:21 OUT: 00:21:51:00
- is that we can do whatever we like.
For real.
0228: IN: 00:21:51:04 OUT: 00:21:54:16
I can go for a walk
if I feel like it, or a bike ride.
0229: IN: 00:21:54:20 OUT: 00:22:00:00
I can hang out with my mates
or pop out for a hotdog.
0230: IN: 00:22:02:08 OUT: 00:22:04:13
I don't miss my mum that much.
0231: IN: 00:22:04:17 OUT: 00:22:09:06
Because I am really,
really happy here.
0232: IN: 00:22:09:10 OUT: 00:22:14:22
I don't think much about it.
I have visitors almost every day.
0233: IN: 00:22:15:22 OUT: 00:22:21:13
I've got a mate called Dion.
0234: IN: 00:22:22:08 OUT: 00:22:25:10
He lives next door
and he pops in to see me.
0235: IN: 00:22:26:10 OUT: 00:22:30:07
Dion and me have the same
problem with our mothers.
0236: IN: 00:22:30:11 OUT: 00:22:33:05
They were both drinkers.
0237: IN: 00:22:33:09 OUT: 00:22:38:01
It's the first time I've met a mate
with the same problems as me.
0238: IN: 00:22:38:05 OUT: 00:22:44:21
We're both damaged and need
extra help with various things.
0239: IN: 00:22:49:01 OUT: 00:22:53:08
Come in!
To us busy educationists!
0240: IN: 00:22:53:12 OUT: 00:22:55:11
Come and see
my cleaning!
0241: IN: 00:22:55:15 OUT: 00:22:59:02
- To see if ...
- It's clean ...
0242: IN: 00:22:59:06 OUT: 00:23:03:00
- It smells nice.
- Now I know what I've missed.
0243: IN: 00:23:03:04 OUT: 00:23:05:05
- Yes?
- The mirror.
0244: IN: 00:23:05:09 OUT: 00:23:08:01
- Will you clean my house too?
- No.
0245: IN: 00:23:09:07 OUT: 00:23:13:08
Hi, Jonas!
How's things? What are you up to?
0246: IN: 00:23:13:12 OUT: 00:23:15:16
Nothing, just chilling.
0247: IN: 00:23:17:23 OUT: 00:23:20:21
- Have a seat.
- Sure.
0248: IN: 00:23:23:10 OUT: 00:23:25:19
- Everything OK?
- Yep.
0249: IN: 00:23:26:19 OUT: 00:23:29:20
Jonas, you've been like
an elder brother to me.
0250: IN: 00:23:29:24 OUT: 00:23:33:23
- Thank you.
- Are you pleased to hear it?
0251: IN: 00:23:34:02 OUT: 00:23:37:19
I thought I'd tell you.
when the time was right.
0252: IN: 00:23:37:23 OUT: 00:23:42:08
My dad is going
to kick the bucket soon.
0253: IN: 00:23:42:12 OUT: 00:23:44:10
He's had it.
0254: IN: 00:23:44:14 OUT: 00:23:48:09
He is so full of junk and drugs.
0255: IN: 00:23:48:13 OUT: 00:23:51:23
One day that will be it.
He'll drop down dead.
0256: IN: 00:23:52:24 OUT: 00:23:57:11
I have looked on as my
mum and dad have rotted away.
0257: IN: 00:23:57:15 OUT: 00:23:59:11
It's not nice.
0258: IN: 00:23:59:15 OUT: 00:24:04:15
It's a good thing you got out before
you had to see it happen to yours.
0259: IN: 00:24:04:19 OUT: 00:24:09:08
Or we wouldn't be any
comfort to each other.
0260: IN: 00:24:10:08 OUT: 00:24:16:14
Because I watched mum and dad drank
their brains out and it's not funny.
0261: IN: 00:24:16:18 OUT: 00:24:19:15
And we'd have been
hit equally hard.
0262: IN: 00:24:19:19 OUT: 00:24:25:04
Better for a kid to be removed
at birth than not until ...
0263: IN: 00:24:25:08 OUT: 00:24:30:02
I don't
actually know how old you were.
0264: IN: 00:24:30:06 OUT: 00:24:31:24
I was ...
0265: IN: 00:24:33:03 OUT: 00:24:37:00
... actually I don't even
know how old I was.
0266: IN: 00:24:37:04 OUT: 00:24:39:12
- Not very old, though.
- No.
0267: IN: 00:24:39:16 OUT: 00:24:42:18
If parents want
to drink and do drugs -
0268: IN: 00:24:42:22 OUT: 00:24:47:20
- the kid should be removed
before they even have it.
0269: IN: 00:24:47:24 OUT: 00:24:51:19
- Yes, of course.
- They can have an abortion.
0270: IN: 00:24:52:21 OUT: 00:24:56:13
They should remember
that it harms the baby.
0271: IN: 00:24:56:17 OUT: 00:24:59:08
- It harms the baby.
- A lot.
0272: IN: 00:24:59:12 OUT: 00:25:03:00
No matter whether
it's alcohol or drugs.
0273: IN: 00:25:03:04 OUT: 00:25:09:14
The result is people like us two
who can't read or write.
0274: IN: 00:25:09:18 OUT: 00:25:12:08
- And that's hard on us.
- Yes.
0275: IN: 00:25:12:12 OUT: 00:25:15:22
I'm having chicken,
potatoes and gravy.
0276: IN: 00:25:16:01 OUT: 00:25:18:09
My favourite.
0277: IN: 00:25:19:20 OUT: 00:25:21:09
I'll eat my dessert first.
0278: IN: 00:25:25:14 OUT: 00:25:29:03
If the grown-ups saw me
they'd say "No!"
0279: IN: 00:25:30:21 OUT: 00:25:34:04
"I'm not allowed stuff like this".
0280: IN: 00:25:36:05 OUT: 00:25:39:24
But I don't care.
I eat whatever I like.
0281: IN: 00:25:44:05 OUT: 00:25:48:12
- What would they say?
- They'd say it wasn't good for me.
0282: IN: 00:25:49:19 OUT: 00:25:54:04
And I'd answer, "Am I one of
those people who's overweight?"
0283: IN: 00:25:57:12 OUT: 00:26:00:23
I don't think
they'd have an answer to that.
0284: IN: 00:26:02:08 OUT: 00:26:04:24
But actually I weigh ...
0285: IN: 00:26:05:20 OUT: 00:26:09:20
... precisely
ten kilos too little.
0286: IN: 00:26:12:14 OUT: 00:26:18:16
Are you having some, Cecilie?
You've got to eat ... right?
0287: IN: 00:26:22:00 OUT: 00:26:27:13
There's nothing in your mouth.
... No, there isn't. Eat up!
0288: IN: 00:26:41:00 OUT: 00:26:47:18
You can win real money
if you have a V.I.P, but I haven't.
0289: IN: 00:26:47:22 OUT: 00:26:54:09
I've become much more ... on my own.
There mustn't be fifty people.
0290: IN: 00:26:57:20 OUT: 00:27:04:07
And there mustn't be loads of noise
all the time. It stresses me -
0291: IN: 00:27:04:11 OUT: 00:27:06:20
- and gives me attacks.
0292: IN: 00:27:06:24 OUT: 00:27:11:13
And I get FAS and shake all over
and can't control my movements.
0293: IN: 00:27:12:09 OUT: 00:27:16:03
Sometimes I think of killing myself.
Not always, though.
0294: IN: 00:27:16:07 OUT: 00:27:19:09
Mental thoughts like that
are not funny.
0295: IN: 00:27:19:13 OUT: 00:27:23:22
I hope you never have them,
but I'd understand if you do.
0296: IN: 00:27:24:01 OUT: 00:27:27:09
Because you'd be like me then.
But I don't think you will.
0297: IN: 00:27:27:13 OUT: 00:27:31:09
- No, I won't.
- You didn't see your mum and dad.
0298: IN: 00:27:31:13 OUT: 00:27:35:15
You only remember stuff from
after you got away from there.
0299: IN: 00:27:35:19 OUT: 00:27:40:05
- And that was tough on you, I know.
- I was only little.
0300: IN: 00:27:40:09 OUT: 00:27:45:00
I was taken from my mum and dad
when I was 14 or 15 years old.
0301: IN: 00:27:45:04 OUT: 00:27:46:20
- That's hard.
- Of course.
0302: IN: 00:27:46:24 OUT: 00:27:51:06
Plus being abused by my
foster parents, who also drank.
0303: IN: 00:27:51:10 OUT: 00:27:55:13
Just as much as my real mum and dad.
0304: IN: 00:27:55:17 OUT: 00:27:58:18
And mum and dad didn't care.
0305: IN: 00:28:03:02 OUT: 00:28:06:11
This was the school I went to.
0306: IN: 00:28:08:18 OUT: 00:28:12:05
I'd sit on the windowsill.
I didn't have any friends.
0307: IN: 00:28:13:17 OUT: 00:28:16:09
I was always left out.
0308: IN: 00:28:18:02 OUT: 00:28:23:24
I didn't have anything to do with
the others; I was always on my own.
0309: IN: 00:28:24:03 OUT: 00:28:27:10
Aren't you going
to play with Cecilie?
0310: IN: 00:28:28:19 OUT: 00:28:31:18
- Who d'you want to play with?
- Nobody.
0311: IN: 00:28:31:22 OUT: 00:28:35:09
Come on, Magda,
let's see the school grounds.
0312: IN: 00:28:35:13 OUT: 00:28:38:07
- Is it snowing?
- Yes.
0313: IN: 00:28:38:11 OUT: 00:28:43:08
I had a special needs teacher
right up till I left school.
0314: IN: 00:28:48:00 OUT: 00:28:51:20
- My head!
- Have you got a headache?
0315: IN: 00:28:52:19 OUT: 00:28:55:01
Is it all a bit much?
0316: IN: 00:28:55:05 OUT: 00:28:59:02
Me and my special needs teacher,
that was great, -
0317: IN: 00:28:59:06 OUT: 00:29:04:05
- apart from the fact that the others
teased me because of it.
0318: IN: 00:29:04:09 OUT: 00:29:09:09
So I'd rather play in my
lovely, lovely den at school.
0319: IN: 00:29:10:13 OUT: 00:29:14:07
Sometimes I do wish
I had some friends.
0320: IN: 00:29:19:01 OUT: 00:29:22:20
Sometimes it's a bit annoying, -
0321: IN: 00:29:22:24 OUT: 00:29:28:08
- because sometimes the big children
tease me and I hate that.
0322: IN: 00:29:28:12 OUT: 00:29:31:19
They always teased me
because I wasn't like them.
0323: IN: 00:29:31:23 OUT: 00:29:37:21
I said weird things and ... yes,
stuff like that, weird stuff.
0324: IN: 00:29:48:04 OUT: 00:29:51:00
You went to
an ordinary school, right?
0325: IN: 00:29:51:04 OUT: 00:29:54:11
It was probably
the biggest mistake of my life.
0326: IN: 00:29:54:15 OUT: 00:29:58:10
Going to a normal nursery school
and a normal school.
0327: IN: 00:29:58:14 OUT: 00:30:03:06
Mum says it was both good and bad.
If I hadn't gone to a normal school -
0328: IN: 00:30:03:10 OUT: 00:30:09:10
- I wouldn't have been as good at
writing and spelling and reading.
0329: IN: 00:30:09:14 OUT: 00:30:14:17
- But if I'd been put into a ...
- Special needs class ...
0330: IN: 00:30:14:21 OUT: 00:30:17:06
... I would never have been bullied.
No.
0331: IN: 00:30:24:13 OUT: 00:30:30:24
I went to a youth college for kids
with problems, disabilities ...
0332: IN: 00:30:31:03 OUT: 00:30:38:10
All kinds of stuff, they couldn't
walk, used wheelchairs, had epilepsy.
0333: IN: 00:30:40:02 OUT: 00:30:44:22
They needed more help than me.
I reckon I'm quite normal -
0334: IN: 00:30:45:01 OUT: 00:30:49:09
- but I do have a few difficulties
and various kinds of damage.
0335: IN: 00:30:49:13 OUT: 00:30:52:07
It wasn't the place for me.
0336: IN: 00:30:52:11 OUT: 00:30:54:24
I spent two years there.
0337: IN: 00:30:55:20 OUT: 00:30:59:05
There was a lot of stress there.
0338: IN: 00:31:00:13 OUT: 00:31:03:21
The staff weren't
always very nice to us.
0339: IN: 00:31:08:09 OUT: 00:31:11:15
Wherever he's been met
with understanding -
0340: IN: 00:31:11:19 OUT: 00:31:15:19
- he has made progress.
But where they just made demands -
0341: IN: 00:31:15:23 OUT: 00:31:21:13
- and the discipline was strict,
I feel Jonas was held back.
0342: IN: 00:31:21:17 OUT: 00:31:24:17
Cecilie attends
a special needs school
0343: IN: 00:31:24:21 OUT: 00:31:28:19
The kings each have
their own bit of Greenland.
0344: IN: 00:31:28:23 OUT: 00:31:33:01
King Christian IX Land
and King Christian X Land.
0345: IN: 00:31:34:04 OUT: 00:31:35:19
Thanks.
0346: IN: 00:31:36:16 OUT: 00:31:42:02
- Who's going to do what?
- You can make the Bolognese.
0347: IN: 00:31:47:01 OUT: 00:31:51:02
You can put them into the bowl
when you've finished.
0348: IN: 00:31:51:06 OUT: 00:31:55:06
- How thick shall I slice them?
- As thick as you like.
0349: IN: 00:31:56:06 OUT: 00:32:01:16
Just use a single chili pepper.
They're quite like ordinary peppers.
0350: IN: 00:32:01:20 OUT: 00:32:04:05
- But much more difficult.
- Really?
0351: IN: 00:32:04:09 OUT: 00:32:10:02
That's right, chop both ends off.
Then you can take out the seeds.
0352: IN: 00:32:11:05 OUT: 00:32:18:17
I'm on a programme called STU,
or Special Youth Training.
0353: IN: 00:32:18:21 OUT: 00:32:24:14
It's mainly for people with
Mongolism or autism -
0354: IN: 00:32:24:18 OUT: 00:32:27:15
- or people who find it
hard to cope.
0355: IN: 00:32:27:19 OUT: 00:32:29:04
The others here -
0356: IN: 00:32:29:08 OUT: 00:32:33:17
- are too disabled.
They're worse than me.
0357: IN: 00:32:33:21 OUT: 00:32:36:11
I don't want to sound unkind.
0358: IN: 00:32:36:15 OUT: 00:32:39:20
But I could do a lot more
than I can here.
0359: IN: 00:32:42:07 OUT: 00:32:46:10
When you're eighteen it isn't nice -
0360: IN: 00:32:46:14 OUT: 00:32:52:11
- to have to ask someone
to read things out for you.
0361: IN: 00:32:52:15 OUT: 00:32:57:18
It's embarrassing
to have to ask all the time.
0362: IN: 00:32:57:22 OUT: 00:33:02:04
I've got a few mates
with the same problems.
0363: IN: 00:33:02:08 OUT: 00:33:05:13
We went to a restaurant -
0364: IN: 00:33:05:17 OUT: 00:33:10:11
- and we wanted to order.
On the menu it said "No. 7" -
0365: IN: 00:33:10:15 OUT: 00:33:14:00
- but we couldn't
read what No. 7 was.
0366: IN: 00:33:14:04 OUT: 00:33:17:03
It gets you down.
0367: IN: 00:33:17:07 OUT: 00:33:21:01
Now we're going
to have to work really hard.
0368: IN: 00:33:21:05 OUT: 00:33:25:24
These are words we use
again and again, and you're good -
0369: IN: 00:33:26:03 OUT: 00:33:30:01
- at learning them as word pictures.
Like photographs in your head.
0370: IN: 00:33:30:05 OUT: 00:33:34:03
Kirsten Bastholm Noergaard
Special needs teacher
0371: IN: 00:33:34:07 OUT: 00:33:38:17
But special needs school was
the best thing to happen to me.
0372: IN: 00:33:38:21 OUT: 00:33:43:14
It's totally amazing.
I learned to read in a year.
0373: IN: 00:33:43:18 OUT: 00:33:51:15
Kirsten is my reading teacher.
She's really good at teaching me.
0374: IN: 00:33:51:19 OUT: 00:33:54:01
She gives me plenty of time.
0375: IN: 00:33:54:05 OUT: 00:33:56:08
"Han" ... (He).
0376: IN: 00:33:56:12 OUT: 00:34:02:22
- "Har" ... (Hair ... has.)
- That's really good.
0377: IN: 00:34:03:01 OUT: 00:34:09:16
What if I let you make a sentence
out of some of these words?
0378: IN: 00:34:10:17 OUT: 00:34:16:16
Can ... I ... eat?
0379: IN: 00:34:16:20 OUT: 00:34:19:08
"Can I eat?"
That's great.
0380: IN: 00:34:19:12 OUT: 00:34:23:09
I've really got a lot
out of being able to read.
0381: IN: 00:34:23:13 OUT: 00:34:27:12
I'm really pleased.
"A flash" ...
0382: IN: 00:34:28:18 OUT: 00:34:35:18
If the label says "broccoli"
I can read it now. It's brilliant!
0383: IN: 00:34:35:22 OUT: 00:34:38:07
"Bread rolls" ...
0384: IN: 00:34:40:06 OUT: 00:34:44:17
I reckon
they'll fit over there ...
0385: IN: 00:34:46:07 OUT: 00:34:49:07
What did you do
before you learned to read?
0386: IN: 00:34:49:11 OUT: 00:34:53:04
I had to open all the boxes
to see what was inside.
0387: IN: 00:34:53:08 OUT: 00:34:55:18
Then the boxes were no good anymore.
0388: IN: 00:35:01:04 OUT: 00:35:07:01
That's my boyfriend.
On 1 November we met -
0389: IN: 00:35:07:05 OUT: 00:35:10:23
- and we both fell
head over heels in love.
0390: IN: 00:35:11:02 OUT: 00:35:15:02
We couldn't stop
looking at each other.
0391: IN: 00:35:16:16 OUT: 00:35:21:04
After a couple of hours I asked him
if he wanted to be my boyfriend.
0392: IN: 00:35:21:08 OUT: 00:35:24:11
And he said "Yes"
and I was so relieved -
0393: IN: 00:35:24:15 OUT: 00:35:28:18
- because I thought he already
had a girlfriend. But he didn't.
0394: IN: 00:35:28:22 OUT: 00:35:31:15
And now he has.
He's got me.
0395: IN: 00:35:32:10 OUT: 00:35:35:18
And we've been together ever since.
0396: IN: 00:35:35:22 OUT: 00:35:39:22
And he's just so lovely and nice
and gorgeous, he's just wonderful.
0397: IN: 00:35:40:01 OUT: 00:35:46:11
- This is easy.
- I know. I just can't be bothered.
0398: IN: 00:35:47:18 OUT: 00:35:52:17
I once had to do it to
my safety shoes, I remember.
0399: IN: 00:35:52:21 OUT: 00:35:55:00
Baby,
did you know -
0400: IN: 00:35:55:04 OUT: 00:36:02:02
- that Axel Stroebye had a twin
brother? You know who he is?
0401: IN: 00:36:02:06 OUT: 00:36:05:08
Yes, the bloke on
your computer screen.
0402: IN: 00:36:05:12 OUT: 00:36:08:04
No, not him, that's Leif Sylvester.
0403: IN: 00:36:08:08 OUT: 00:36:10:24
This is Axel Stroebye.
You must know who he is.
0404: IN: 00:36:11:03 OUT: 00:36:16:08
- Sure I do.
- From "39 Girls and a Sailor".
0405: IN: 00:36:16:12 OUT: 00:36:19:23
- He was also in "Dad and Four Kids".
- Right, he played Uncle Erik.
0406: IN: 00:36:20:02 OUT: 00:36:26:18
Is there anyone you'd like to meet
who you've never ever met? Actors?
0407: IN: 00:36:26:22 OUT: 00:36:30:01
- Yes, I'd like to ...
- How about Mads Mikkelsen?
0408: IN: 00:36:30:05 OUT: 00:36:34:03
I'd like to meet the bloke
who plays James Boo.
0409: IN: 00:36:34:07 OUT: 00:36:36:08
- Who?
James Boo.
0410: IN: 00:36:36:12 OUT: 00:36:40:21
James Bond, you mean.
What if you actually met him?
0411: IN: 00:36:41:00 OUT: 00:36:42:13
How would you feel?
0412: IN: 00:36:42:17 OUT: 00:36:47:11
- I'd want his picture.
- How would you feel?
0413: IN: 00:36:47:15 OUT: 00:36:51:17
- I'd feel great.
- Like now.
0414: IN: 00:36:51:21 OUT: 00:36:56:14
I'd like to meet the people in the
Asterix films and Obelix films too.
0415: IN: 00:36:56:18 OUT: 00:36:59:21
They live in other countries now,
I've been told.
0416: IN: 00:37:00:00 OUT: 00:37:03:13
And they're old now.
But back then they weren't so old.
0417: IN: 00:37:04:15 OUT: 00:37:08:03
- Thank you.
- You can put them in the hall.
0418: IN: 00:37:08:07 OUT: 00:37:10:21
And now you know how to do them.
0419: IN: 00:37:12:18 OUT: 00:37:17:10
I could eat you up!
Eat, eat, eat!
0420: IN: 00:37:19:00 OUT: 00:37:21:10
No, Mimi, you're too hot in this.
0421: IN: 00:37:23:01 OUT: 00:37:26:10
We'd better take it off.
If mummy can.
0422: IN: 00:37:28:14 OUT: 00:37:30:02
It is a bit tight.
0423: IN: 00:37:30:06 OUT: 00:37:34:12
If I had a normal husband
I might think about having a baby.
0424: IN: 00:37:34:16 OUT: 00:37:38:05
But not the way things are now.
0425: IN: 00:37:38:09 OUT: 00:37:41:13
But I do want a dog.
That's almost the same.
0426: IN: 00:37:45:04 OUT: 00:37:48:19
Daddy will be home soon.
Tomorrow.
0427: IN: 00:37:48:23 OUT: 00:37:55:01
Tickle tickle, chuck chuck ... It
creases me up to see him with her.
0428: IN: 00:37:55:05 OUT: 00:37:59:00
He gets the daddies
when he is with her.
0429: IN: 00:38:00:00 OUT: 00:38:04:03
No wonder when she is so lifelike.
0430: IN: 00:38:04:07 OUT: 00:38:08:21
The funniest thing
is that she's got Dennis's eyes.
0431: IN: 00:38:09:00 OUT: 00:38:15:08
I didn't realise when I bought her,
but she really has got his eyes.
0432: IN: 00:38:18:15 OUT: 00:38:21:20
- Are you ...
- I've got housework to do.
0433: IN: 00:38:21:24 OUT: 00:38:26:05
Are you going into town tomorrow?
What are you going to buy?
0434: IN: 00:38:27:17 OUT: 00:38:31:20
- Nail varnish remover.
- I need nail varnish remover too.
0435: IN: 00:38:31:24 OUT: 00:38:34:21
Are you fed up with
having varnished nails?
0436: IN: 00:38:35:00 OUT: 00:38:37:17
My nails need doing again.
0437: IN: 00:38:40:16 OUT: 00:38:43:15
I tease you all day long.
0438: IN: 00:38:48:13 OUT: 00:38:50:21
It was a mess.
0439: IN: 00:38:52:16 OUT: 00:38:57:06
- It turned out really bad.
- How come?
0440: IN: 00:38:57:10 OUT: 00:39:03:06
Firstly I went to my uncle's
to wish them Happy Easter.
0441: IN: 00:39:03:10 OUT: 00:39:06:20
And he tells me
I've got a screw loose.
0442: IN: 00:39:06:24 OUT: 00:39:10:22
So I went to my mum, I mean,
she is still my mum, after all.
0443: IN: 00:39:11:01 OUT: 00:39:15:04
To say Happy Easter. And she tells me
I've got a screw loose too.
0444: IN: 00:39:15:08 OUT: 00:39:19:02
"Don't give me that shit, mum,
you don't really mean it".
0445: IN: 00:39:19:06 OUT: 00:39:20:10
"Oh, yes, I do", she says.
0446: IN: 00:39:20:14 OUT: 00:39:25:07
So I say "OK, don't I
even get an Easter Egg?"
0447: IN: 00:39:25:11 OUT: 00:39:28:04
"Seeing as if it's Easter?"
0448: IN: 00:39:28:08 OUT: 00:39:34:01
"No, we'd rather not have had you in
the family with that brain damage!"
0449: IN: 00:39:34:17 OUT: 00:39:38:20
Does she realise it's her fault
because she drinked ... drank?
0450: IN: 00:39:38:24 OUT: 00:39:41:16
I don't think she does.
0451: IN: 00:39:41:20 OUT: 00:39:47:08
I have tried to tell her it wasn't
my fault. I didn't mean to get it.
0452: IN: 00:39:47:12 OUT: 00:39:50:07
- I didn't mean to.
- Did she know she ...
0453: IN: 00:39:50:11 OUT: 00:39:55:05
She knows she drank,
her doctors told me that.
0454: IN: 00:39:56:08 OUT: 00:40:01:06
She started drinking
when she was twenty -
0455: IN: 00:40:01:10 OUT: 00:40:05:21
- like I am now,
and she just carried on.
0456: IN: 00:40:06:00 OUT: 00:40:10:13
Guess how old she is now?
She's 46.
0457: IN: 00:40:10:17 OUT: 00:40:15:03
So I'm not going back. And now
I ask you as a friend, right?
0458: IN: 00:40:15:07 OUT: 00:40:19:11
How do I get it sorted?
Because I can't sort it by myself.
0459: IN: 00:40:21:01 OUT: 00:40:26:19
What do you advise me to do?
0460: IN: 00:40:28:15 OUT: 00:40:33:18
Well ... what you can do ... is ...
0461: IN: 00:40:36:19 OUT: 00:40:39:20
Try to think about something else.
0462: IN: 00:40:39:24 OUT: 00:40:43:23
If that's how your mum wants it,
that's life.
0463: IN: 00:40:44:02 OUT: 00:40:48:21
I'll see if she means it, and if she
does, I won't phone again.
0464: IN: 00:40:49:00 OUT: 00:40:52:06
It'll hurt me
deep down inside though.
0465: IN: 00:40:52:10 OUT: 00:40:55:14
A mother always loves her children.
0466: IN: 00:41:04:16 OUT: 00:41:08:23
That's where we live.
0467: IN: 00:41:09:02 OUT: 00:41:13:15
See the white blocks of flats?
That's where Peter is right now.
0468: IN: 00:41:13:19 OUT: 00:41:18:08
See that lovely family over there?
That's the kind I'd like to have.
0469: IN: 00:41:18:12 OUT: 00:41:23:21
A family with little kids
out with their mum and dad.
0470: IN: 00:41:24:00 OUT: 00:41:26:14
It didn't turn out like that for me.
0471: IN: 00:41:37:04 OUT: 00:41:41:09
When I was fifteen my foster parents
took me to Greenland.
0472: IN: 00:41:41:13 OUT: 00:41:44:10
I saw how my relatives lived.
0473: IN: 00:41:45:08 OUT: 00:41:48:19
We wrote to each other,
talked on the phone, -
0474: IN: 00:41:48:23 OUT: 00:41:52:19
- and met each other in Denmark
I wanted to see -
0475: IN: 00:41:52:23 OUT: 00:41:57:15
- what kind of country
my mother had come from.
0476: IN: 00:42:06:02 OUT: 00:42:10:04
I never even dreamed
I'd be able to go again.
0477: IN: 00:42:20:01 OUT: 00:42:23:01
I've got a lump in my throat.
0478: IN: 00:42:24:23 OUT: 00:42:27:06
My heart is thumping.
0479: IN: 00:42:36:08 OUT: 00:42:42:01
When we got off the plane
my tears wouldn't hold back.
0480: IN: 00:42:42:05 OUT: 00:42:46:13
When we got to baggage reclaim
I completely lost it.
0481: IN: 00:42:48:20 OUT: 00:42:52:18
My legs began to shake.
I couldn't breathe.
0482: IN: 00:42:58:07 OUT: 00:43:01:16
But when we got out to granny -
0483: IN: 00:43:01:20 OUT: 00:43:03:24
- it kind of passed.
0484: IN: 00:43:05:13 OUT: 00:43:08:05
Theodora Eugenius.
0485: IN: 00:43:08:09 OUT: 00:43:10:13
It's just as I remember it.
0486: IN: 00:43:18:20 OUT: 00:43:22:23
I think that's granny as
a little girl, but I'm not sure.
0487: IN: 00:43:29:18 OUT: 00:43:32:16
Well then, Cecilie,
do you want a taste?
0488: IN: 00:43:32:20 OUT: 00:43:35:19
- What did you say?
- Dried cod.
0489: IN: 00:43:36:22 OUT: 00:43:39:16
Granny? Do you like Elvis?
0490: IN: 00:43:39:20 OUT: 00:43:42:23
Oh, that was years ago.
0491: IN: 00:43:47:02 OUT: 00:43:49:19
Do you like it?
0492: IN: 00:43:51:00 OUT: 00:43:57:23
How do you continue?
I pull up behind the bus.
0493: IN: 00:43:58:19 OUT: 00:44:00:11
No!
0494: IN: 00:44:00:15 OUT: 00:44:05:21
We've come to take a test to see
if I can get my driving licence.
0495: IN: 00:44:06:00 OUT: 00:44:12:07
I have to do various things with
my head, like looking all around, -
0496: IN: 00:44:12:11 OUT: 00:44:17:13
- and to the other side,
and I had to raise my arm -
0497: IN: 00:44:17:17 OUT: 00:44:22:13
- to see if I could
follow it with my eyes.
0498: IN: 00:44:22:17 OUT: 00:44:29:01
And I had to hop and do star jumps.
And loads of crazy things.
0499: IN: 00:44:29:05 OUT: 00:44:32:06
Technical problems ...
0500: IN: 00:44:32:10 OUT: 00:44:38:15
- And she said I could have lessons.
- Must you give way?
0501: IN: 00:44:38:19 OUT: 00:44:43:00
- No.
-You must give way.
0502: IN: 00:44:50:19 OUT: 00:44:51:24
Yes ...
0503: IN: 00:44:52:24 OUT: 00:44:55:16
I'd like to live here -
0504: IN: 00:44:55:20 OUT: 00:44:59:07
- if it wasn't so cold.
0505: IN: 00:45:04:01 OUT: 00:45:08:17
I want to live here.
With you. Yes!
0506: IN: 00:45:08:21 OUT: 00:45:13:22
- There are lots of dogs on the road.
- And they are dangerous.
0507: IN: 00:45:14:01 OUT: 00:45:18:17
- Hey, are there wolves in Greenland?
- Yes.
0508: IN: 00:45:18:21 OUT: 00:45:21:01
But that was many years ago.
0509: IN: 00:45:21:05 OUT: 00:45:25:09
Today I've learned not to
be afraid of trying new things.
0510: IN: 00:45:28:16 OUT: 00:45:32:01
And that if you give,
you receive.
0511: IN: 00:45:32:05 OUT: 00:45:36:11
Suddenly I was going to be on
my own with my granny, Theodora, -
0512: IN: 00:45:36:15 OUT: 00:45:41:21
- and I thought, "Oh, no! I can't
even understand what she says!"
0513: IN: 00:45:42:00 OUT: 00:45:48:18
But then I thought, "If I back out
I'll feel awful ever after!"
0514: IN: 00:45:48:22 OUT: 00:45:53:02
"Or I can go for it and just
take things as they come -
0515: IN: 00:45:53:06 OUT: 00:45:55:16
- and make the best of it."
0516: IN: 00:45:55:20 OUT: 00:45:59:15
I chose the latter
and I'm totally pleased I did.
0517: IN: 00:46:00:22 OUT: 00:46:03:01
I love being with you.
0518: IN: 00:46:03:18 OUT: 00:46:06:02
"I love you ..."
0519: IN: 00:46:11:20 OUT: 00:46:14:16
I won't be back
when the ship comes in.
0520: IN: 00:46:18:16 OUT: 00:46:19:20
So bon voyage.
0521: IN: 00:46:31:11 OUT: 00:46:33:12
Two rows.
0522: IN: 00:46:37:05 OUT: 00:46:39:04
54 ...
0523: IN: 00:46:40:16 OUT: 00:46:42:20
- 66 ...
What?!
0524: IN: 00:46:42:24 OUT: 00:46:48:00
66.
You've got 69.
0525: IN: 00:46:53:15 OUT: 00:46:56:04
22 ...
0526: IN: 00:46:56:08 OUT: 00:46:59:01
Why does he speak so quickly?
0527: IN: 00:47:00:10 OUT: 00:47:03:17
It's no fun.
It's much too quick.
0528: IN: 00:47:05:15 OUT: 00:47:09:05
- It's stressing me out!
- That's no good.
0529: IN: 00:47:10:23 OUT: 00:47:15:05
And when I'm stressed
I don't know what I'm doing.
0530: IN: 00:47:15:09 OUT: 00:47:17:23
Sometimes I even have to ask mum -
0531: IN: 00:47:18:02 OUT: 00:47:21:07
- what I've said or done.
I can't remember.
0532: IN: 00:47:21:11 OUT: 00:47:29:08
Sometimes I get so stressed
that my ... my brain can't keep up.
0533: IN: 00:47:38:00 OUT: 00:47:45:18
Yesterday I had a minor attack.
My legs started trembling.
0534: IN: 00:47:45:22 OUT: 00:47:50:02
"Who were all these people?"
0535: IN: 00:47:50:06 OUT: 00:47:53:02
But after they'd been there a while -
0536: IN: 00:47:53:06 OUT: 00:47:55:10
- it suddenly passed ... until
it was time for my haircut.
0537: IN: 00:47:55:14 OUT: 00:47:59:10
I'm so nervous!
My legs are trembling.
0538: IN: 00:48:06:03 OUT: 00:48:11:18
Firstly I have no filter, and so
my brain can't say "Enough!"
0539: IN: 00:48:11:22 OUT: 00:48:14:00
So my body takes over.
0540: IN: 00:48:14:04 OUT: 00:48:18:03
It starts to tremble.
0541: IN: 00:48:18:07 OUT: 00:48:21:13
It starts in my legs,
and if things get worse -
0542: IN: 00:48:23:14 OUT: 00:48:27:11
- it takes over my whole body
and I lose control of my legs.
0543: IN: 00:48:27:15 OUT: 00:48:30:08
Martha Platou
Cecilie's cousin
0544: IN: 00:48:30:12 OUT: 00:48:34:01
- What have I let myself in for?
- Lean back ...
0545: IN: 00:48:35:07 OUT: 00:48:40:24
When we're together you don't think
about my disability, do you?
0546: IN: 00:48:41:03 OUT: 00:48:44:00
- No.
- That's nice.
0547: IN: 00:48:45:00 OUT: 00:48:47:18
- Why?
- Because everyone else does.
0548: IN: 00:48:47:22 OUT: 00:48:51:08
- That's all.
- OK ... well, we don't.
0549: IN: 00:48:51:12 OUT: 00:48:56:13
Where I live there are all kinds
of disabled people.
0550: IN: 00:48:56:17 OUT: 00:49:01:01
In order to fit in I have
to act a bit funny as well.
0551: IN: 00:49:02:11 OUT: 00:49:09:07
Because otherwise it's very obvious
to me how different I am to them.
0552: IN: 00:49:09:11 OUT: 00:49:13:15
I haven't any friends there
because that's my choice.
0553: IN: 00:49:24:14 OUT: 00:49:27:21
It's my belated birthday party.
0554: IN: 00:49:28:00 OUT: 00:49:31:05
Wish Cecilie the best of luck -
0555: IN: 00:49:31:09 OUT: 00:49:35:05
- the momen she blows the candles out!
0556: IN: 00:49:35:22 OUT: 00:49:39:12
Maritha Eugenius Labansen
Cecilie's cousin
0557: IN: 00:49:39:16 OUT: 00:49:42:00
One, two, three!
0558: IN: 00:49:48:08 OUT: 00:49:51:05
My head and heart are stuffed!
0559: IN: 00:49:52:23 OUT: 00:49:56:07
I need a walk.
Back to granny's.
0560: IN: 00:49:57:16 OUT: 00:49:59:17
It's crazy!
0561: IN: 00:50:03:24 OUT: 00:50:07:22
I feel much more at home
in Greenland.
0562: IN: 00:50:08:01 OUT: 00:50:11:11
They don't look down at you here.
0563: IN: 00:50:11:15 OUT: 00:50:18:06
They accept that you've got a leg
missing or you drink or whatever.
0564: IN: 00:50:18:10 OUT: 00:50:24:14
Not like back home: "You're disabled
so you must go to that school".
0565: IN: 00:50:24:18 OUT: 00:50:29:11
"Now you must be given
a disability allowance".
0566: IN: 00:50:29:15 OUT: 00:50:31:05
"Now you can't get a job".
0567: IN: 00:50:39:09 OUT: 00:50:42:11
What I want to say is:
0568: IN: 00:50:42:15 OUT: 00:50:47:01
There hasn't been a single day here
that I haven't liked.
0569: IN: 00:50:47:05 OUT: 00:50:52:17
I've felt things all the time.
Happiness, anger, tears, and ... yes.
0570: IN: 00:51:22:04 OUT: 00:51:25:13
How's life at the home?
0571: IN: 00:51:25:17 OUT: 00:51:28:11
Great.
0572: IN: 00:51:30:07 OUT: 00:51:32:03
That's nice.
0573: IN: 00:51:34:00 OUT: 00:51:38:02
Since I started at the supermarket
I've been reborn.
0574: IN: 00:51:40:06 OUT: 00:51:46:21
Because I meet new people every day.
It's challenging.
0575: IN: 00:51:48:14 OUT: 00:51:53:24
I've got more energy when I get home
and I'm happy and satisfied -
0576: IN: 00:51:54:03 OUT: 00:51:56:09
- and ready for more.
0577: IN: 00:52:02:07 OUT: 00:52:06:06
I think I've become much too good
to live there anymore.
0578: IN: 00:52:06:10 OUT: 00:52:08:19
- Yes?
- So I ...
0579: IN: 00:52:08:23 OUT: 00:52:13:11
How do you mean,
too good to live there anymore?
0580: IN: 00:52:14:16 OUT: 00:52:18:14
I'm ready
to branch out into my own world.
0581: IN: 00:52:18:18 OUT: 00:52:22:11
To live on my own.
0582: IN: 00:52:22:15 OUT: 00:52:29:15
I want to share a flat
with other young people.
0583: IN: 00:52:29:19 OUT: 00:52:32:14
You get a flat of your own.
0584: IN: 00:52:32:18 OUT: 00:52:38:00
You can go downstairs for meals
but go back to your own place.
0585: IN: 00:52:38:04 OUT: 00:52:40:15
You mean a block of flats -
0586: IN: 00:52:40:19 OUT: 00:52:45:08
- where there's also
a flat with educationists -
0587: IN: 00:52:45:12 OUT: 00:52:49:13
- where you can sign up for meals.
0588: IN: 00:52:49:17 OUT: 00:52:50:20
Yes.
0589: IN: 00:52:50:24 OUT: 00:52:54:04
More of a flat of your own
than you have now.
0590: IN: 00:52:54:08 OUT: 00:52:56:16
With not quite so much support.
0591: IN: 00:53:02:06 OUT: 00:53:06:06
- There's a car coming.
- We'll wait.
0592: IN: 00:53:09:04 OUT: 00:53:14:04
Now I've got a car
and my driving licence.
0593: IN: 00:53:14:08 OUT: 00:53:18:18
I've been to Frederikshavn
and to Saeby -
0594: IN: 00:53:20:06 OUT: 00:53:24:13
- and to Germany
and Southern Jutland.
0595: IN: 00:53:24:17 OUT: 00:53:27:12
So the next step is to move.
0596: IN: 00:53:30:03 OUT: 00:53:34:04
I'm sad that I can't read and write.
0597: IN: 00:53:34:08 OUT: 00:53:37:02
But it's nice that you can help me.
0598: IN: 00:53:37:06 OUT: 00:53:40:14
You can drive and read -
0599: IN: 00:53:40:18 OUT: 00:53:43:10
- and do new things.
0600: IN: 00:53:44:14 OUT: 00:53:46:22
It's really helped me.
0601: IN: 00:53:47:01 OUT: 00:53:54:00
From school where it was like this
you've grown to this!
0602: IN: 00:54:02:10 OUT: 00:54:08:15
It hasn't quite sunk in
that I am moving to a new flat.
0603: IN: 00:54:08:19 OUT: 00:54:11:16
But it'll be exciting.
And fun.
0604: IN: 00:54:11:20 OUT: 00:54:15:07
I can hear a car.
0605: IN: 00:54:16:19 OUT: 00:54:19:01
They're here.
0606: IN: 00:54:19:05 OUT: 00:54:21:05
That's not a very big trailer.
0607: IN: 00:54:27:08 OUT: 00:54:31:14
I can't carry these crates,
they are too heavy.
0608: IN: 00:54:31:18 OUT: 00:54:35:20
I can carry bits and pieces
like that.
0609: IN: 00:54:37:08 OUT: 00:54:41:24
Let's begin!
You'll be tired tonight!
0610: IN: 00:54:57:09 OUT: 00:55:02:07
- Wow! It's much bigger!
- That's what I said.
0611: IN: 00:55:03:22 OUT: 00:55:08:07
- What a lovely view!
- You can smell the flowers.
0612: IN: 00:55:08:11 OUT: 00:55:10:20
- You can see the sea!
- Yes, almost.
0613: IN: 00:55:15:18 OUT: 00:55:18:07
Right, what next?
0614: IN: 00:55:21:09 OUT: 00:55:26:04
- Is there enough room?
- We'll soon find out.
0615: IN: 00:55:29:03 OUT: 00:55:32:08
The coffee table
isn't quite right, is it?
0616: IN: 00:55:32:12 OUT: 00:55:36:11
- The television looks tiny!
- You can save up for a new one.
0617: IN: 00:55:36:15 OUT: 00:55:41:24
- Did I have more space before?
- You didn't have a kitchen.
0618: IN: 00:55:42:18 OUT: 00:55:46:10
- I'm going to sit down.
- Have you had enough?
0619: IN: 00:55:47:17 OUT: 00:55:51:24
Suddenly
I can't get my head round it!
0620: IN: 00:55:52:03 OUT: 00:55:56:19
It's hard to picture
how I want it to be.
0621: IN: 00:56:01:16 OUT: 00:56:05:21
And the wind
in the tree tops ...
0622: IN: 00:56:10:05 OUT: 00:56:13:21
I never used to see the evening sun,
but I can now.
0623: IN: 00:56:17:10 OUT: 00:56:21:12
Wow! I'm going to sit out here
every evening and enjoy it.
0624: IN: 00:56:24:10 OUT: 00:56:28:15
Freedom! It's so big! Far too big!
0625: IN: 00:56:30:08 OUT: 00:56:33:06
I feel so tiny!
0626: IN: 00:56:33:10 OUT: 00:56:36:05
In this big world!
0627: IN: 00:56:38:06 OUT: 00:56:42:11
All alone ...
parting is so hard to do.
0628: IN: 00:56:44:05 OUT: 00:56:46:22
It is so hard to leave.
0629: IN: 00:56:48:21 OUT: 00:56:52:22
But in my every thought -
0630: IN: 00:56:53:01 OUT: 00:56:57:10
- I will always follow you.
0631: IN: 00:57:00:13 OUT: 00:57:06:20
We do not know how little alcohol
it takes to damage the foetus.
0632: IN: 00:57:06:24 OUT: 00:57:10:20
The National Health
Board recommends -
0633: IN: 00:57:10:24 OUT: 00:57:17:05
- that during pregnancy women
should avoid alcohol altogether.
57:23: Participants: CECILIE CHRISTENSEN
57:27: JONAS NØRGAARD
57:31: Director, camera, sound and producer ANJA DALHOFF
57:35: Consultant INGER THORMANN
57:38: Edit EDDA URUP
57:41: Music POVL KRISTIAN
57:44: Colourgrading, effects and graphic AHMAD JALALI FARAHANI
57:47: Sounddesign IBEN HAAHR ANDERSEN
57:51: Fundraiser JAN SALHA BERG
57:54: Technician JOHS AARUP
57:57: Productionsassistent FLORENCIO GARCES SEGURA
58:01: Tak til: Cecilies familie
CECILIE’S FAMILY IN DENMARK AND GREENLAND
JONAS’ MOTHER LISE FRIISMOSE
GROUP HOME IN HJØRRING
SPECIALSCHOOL IN HJØRRING
SPECIALSCHOOL IN NÆSTVED
FOSTER FAMILIE’S NATIONAL ASSOCIATION
DIANE BLACK
LEIF SYLVESTER
HENRIK MØLLER SØRENSEN
EBBE PREISLER
JOHANNE EUGENIUS
SUSANNE MØLLER (GLACIERSHOP)
CHARLOTTE GULDBERG
MALLEFOUGASSE
Filmen is produced by:
Danish Doc Production
in cooperation with
DR/ Mette Meyer Hoffmann
The film is supported by
PAULA OG AXEL NISSENS GRANT
METTZ KJÆRGAARD CHILREN FOUNDATION
LOUIS PETERSENS FOUNDATION
LAURITZEN FOUNDATION
FOAs PEDAGOGICAL DEVELOPMENT FOUNDATION
A.P. MØLLER OG HUSTRU CHASTINE MC-KINNEY MØLLERS FOUNDATION FOR GENERAL AIMS
THE ROYAL FOUNDATION OF GREENLAND
AASE & EJNAR DANISELSENS FOUNDATION
LUDVIGSEN’S GRANT
CHR. P. HANSEN OG HUSTRUS FOUNDATION
58:18: Production
DANISH DOC PRODUCTION
2014
58:26: DANISH DOC PRODUCTION