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Hello.
-Shen, the client is here.
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Dating Agent: Hello.
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Dating Agent: Let's go to our meeting room.
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Dating Agent: How long have you worked as a lawyer?
Qiu Hua Mei: -For many years.
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Dating Agent: What kind of man would be
a good match for you?
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Qiu Hua Mei:I have high standards.
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Qiu Hua Mei: For example,
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Qiu Hua Mei: he must be well educated.
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Qiu Hua Mei: Most important, he must respect women.
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Qiu Hua Mei: He should share the housework with me.
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Dating Agent: Have you ever been in a relationship?
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Qiu Hua Mei: Twice.
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Dating Agent: You said you lived together for a while.
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Dating Agent: When you lived together, was there any conflict?
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Qiu Hua Mei: He didn't do any housework.
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Dating Agent: It sounds like it really bothers you.
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Qiu Hua Mei: Yes.
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Dating Agent: Did you make him do it?
Qiu Hua Mei: -Yes.
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Dating Agent: Sorry if I'm being too straightforward,
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but you're not beautiful
in the traditional sense.
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Dating Agent: I don't mean you're not pretty,
I mean you're not a beauty.
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Dating Agent: And also, you're old.
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Qiu Hua Mei: I'm old?
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Qiu Hua Mei: I think I'm at a good age.
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Dating Agent: Do you think you're at the perfect age
for the marriage market?
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Dating Agent: Please don't think
you're in a good position.
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Dating Agent: You might think you look young,
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but you're fooling yourself.
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Dating Agent: Even if you fall in love
with someone today,
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it would take at least a year to get married,
one more to give birth, you'll be an old mom.
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Dating Agent: Right?
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Qiu Hua Mei: What if I choose not to have children?
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Dating Agent: Do you have thoughts
about not having children?
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Qiu Hua Mei: Sometimes.
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Dating Agent: Do you want to find someone
who can accept not having children?
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Qiu Hua Mei: That's why I think...
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That's why I said I need someone
who can respect my desires.
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Dating Agent: But do you want to be single
or do you want to get married?
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Qiu Hua Mei: Married, of course.
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Dating Agent: Then you can't choose
not to have children.
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Dating Agent: You still want to get married, right?
Qiu Hua Mei: -Yes.
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Dating Agent: It may be because of your job,
but you have a tough personality.
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Qiu Hua Mei: I see.
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Dating Agent: You have to soften yourself up.
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"Today you're going to marry me"
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Xu Min: Hello everyone,
broadcasting from Beijing every day.
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I am your host Xu Min,
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spending every joyful morning with you.
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Dating Event Host: Ladies and gentlemen,
please join us after you've signed in.
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We'll have several rows
so you can find your Mr. or Ms. Right.
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Dating Event Host: If you're happy and you know it,
clap your hands!
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Thank you.
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If you're happy and you know it,
clap your hands!
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Great.
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I changed the third line.
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If you're happy, please shake hands
with the person in front of you
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and say hello.
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Shake hands and say hello.
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It shouldn't look like
you're shaking hands with a client.
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Dating Event Host: Please tell us your name.
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Xu Min: Hi everyone, my name is Xu Min.
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I graduated from Communication University.
My major is broadcasting and radio hosting.
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Dating Event Host: When did you graduate?
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Xu Min: I graduated in 2014.
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Dating Event Host: In 2014.
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Dating Event Host: Hi, senior alumna.
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Dating Event Host: I'm just joking.
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Xu Min: I hope he'll be outgoing
and optimistic.
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Xu Min: I hope I can find a sincere person
to be my better half.
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Dating Event Host: Next, let's welcome gentleman no.2.
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Dating Event Host: Please tell me your name
and where you're from.
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Wang: Hi everyone, I'm Wang.
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I'm from Beijing, but...
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Dating Event Host: Please speak to the ladies.
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Wang: My hometown is in Heilongjiang province.
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Dating Event Host: What do you mean, "you're from Beijing"?
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Wang: I'm afraid some girls won't date people
who aren’t from Beijing.
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Dating Event Host: Please tell us about your job.
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Wang: I studied abroad.
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Wang: I studied accounting in England.
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Wang: I work as a civil servant.
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Dating Event Host: Okay.
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Dating Event Host: I believe many girls
will be interested in you.
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Dating Event Host: Since you studied abroad,
girls will look at you differently.
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Dating Event Host: Please shake hands with two ladies
to show your appreciation.
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Dating Event Host: Go ahead and choose.
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Dating Event Host: I said two ladies, but you only have one left.
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Dating Event Host: Handsome guy, please come over here.
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Dating Event Host: Please come here.
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Dating Event Host: Here is the prize.
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Dating Event Host: Let's give them a round of applause.
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Dating Event Host: Please look there. Great.
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Dating Event Host: Congratulations.
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Man: How do you feel? It's great, right?
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Man: He's a good match.
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Xu Min: What?
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Man: He's a good match.
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Wang: Did you graduate from
Communication University of China? Xu Min: -Yes.
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Xu Min: Which middle school did you go to?
Wang: -The 25th Middle School, Eastern side.
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Xu Min: I studied at the 101 Middle School.
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Xu Min: It's a wonderful school.
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Xu Min: What was your major?
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Wang: I majored in economics in college.
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Xu Min: Economics.
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Wang: Basically, I go on a blind-date once a month.
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Wang: Actually, I'm not that old.
Xu Min: -Not that old.
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Wang: Besides, I look young.
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Xu Min: Right.
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Wang: -I don't look 30.
Xu Min: -Right.
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Wang: But my parents...
Xu Min: -They're worried.
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Wang: My mom is very worried.
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Wang: I'll give you a simple example...
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Xu Min's Mum: This is too salty.
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Xu Min: This one is a little salty.
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Xu Min's Mum: Please eat the rest of the rice.
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Xu Min: Dad, you eat it.
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Xu Min's Dad: I want some of this.
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Xu Min: Yesterday I went to a blind dating event.
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Xu Min: I met a guy.
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Xu Min: He chose,
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Xu Min: he chose me on the stage.
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Xu Min: Afterwards, we chatted.
He's nice.
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Xu Min: He got his Master's in England.
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Xu Min: And…
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Xu Min: he's working now.
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Xu Min: He seems interesting.
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Xu Min: He's a civil servant.
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Xu Min's Mum: Is he from Beijing?
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Xu Min: No, but he's lived
in Beijing for many years.
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His parents came here years ago.
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Xu Min's Dad: You should be careful,
it might be a scam.
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Xu Min's Dad: There are lots of scams on the internet.
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Xu Min's Dad: The dating websites...
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Xu Min's Dad: It happens all the time.
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Xu Min's Dad: They can take advantage
of your money or your body.
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Xu Min's Dad: Be careful.
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Xu Min's Mum: What made him go to the event?
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Xu Min: How should I know?
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Xu Min: You just need to sign up,
then you can go.
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Xu Min's Mum: Getting to know each other is very important.
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Xu Min's Mum: The problem is,
we know nothing about him.
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Xu Min: He's highly educated.
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Xu Min: He has a steady job,
he's a civil servant.
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Xu Min: I think he's okay.
He's more...
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Xu Min: He seems reliable.
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Xu Min: What do you think?
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Xu Min's Mum: If it's real, it's okay.
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Xu Min's Mum: His criteria fit mine very well.
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Xu Min's Dad: Did he give you his number
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Xu Min's Dad: so you could stay in touch?
Xu Min: -Yes
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Xu Min's Dad: Don't rush it.
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Xu Min's Mum: You're old enough.
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Xu Min: I'm not a 3-year-old,
why would I be tricked?
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Xu Min: I'll try to get to know him gradually.
Xu Min's Dad: -Get to know each other.
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Xu Min's Mum: You're not old.
You're not a leftover woman yet.
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Xu Min's Mum: If you wait too long to get married,
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we'll be too old to take care of your baby.
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Xu Min's Mum: That's what concerns me.
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Xu Min's Dad: If someone is suitable, don't wait.
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Xu Min's Mum: The sooner the better.
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Woman: He's a lawyer.
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Woman: But he's short.
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"Girl, born in 1989, looking for a boy
at least 175 cm, steady income"
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"My son is a tennis player
on the national team."
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"My father owns a cultural enterprise.
If he isn't from Beijing, he must own a home in Beijing."
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"Beijing boy: single, born in June."
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"She must have a steady job and be pretty."
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"Male. 180 cm. Business administration.
Lives on his own."
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Gai Qi: Marriage is a business between two families.
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Gai Qi: I come from an intellectual family
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but my reality is more complicated.
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Gai Qi: My dad got Parkinson's
when he was 47.
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Gai Qi: These circumstances
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affected me when I was trying
to find a spouse.
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Gai Qi: Later on, my father passed away.
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Gai Qi: We spent lots of money on his treatment,
so we don't have much money left.
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Man: Without a financial foundation,
you can't build a home.
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Gai Qi: Our families don't have an equal social rank.
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Gai Qi: But you have to compromise
for your marriage.
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Man: I'm fine with my village background.
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Gai Qi: Does my age bother you?
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Man: Yes.
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Man: Yes, it does bother me.
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Man: I can accept it, but others might not.
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Man: Including my parents, family and friends.
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Man: So it is a problem.
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Man: I made the decision to be with you.
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Man: Only my mom knows about your age.
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Man: Ultimately,
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Man: all these things are for us...
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Man: To live a better life.
Gai Qi: -Right.
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Gai Qi: At first,
after we exchanged contact info,
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Gai Qi: I hesitated about starting this relationship,
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Gai Qi: because I knew you're younger than me.
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Gai Qi: I thought it was inappropriate.
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Gai Qi: It took me a long time to accept it.
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Gai Qi: Now I realize that relationships and
marriage have nothing to do with age.
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Man: It won't affect our marriage,
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Man: it won't affect our life either.
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Gai Qi: Yes.
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Qiu Hua Mei: These cartoons are made by the government.
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Qiu Hua Mei: They do whatever they want.
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When you reach a certain age
and you're not married,
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everyone can tease you about it.
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Qiu Hua Mei: Even my older sister would tell her children
to call me "Auntie Bachelorette."
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Qiu Hua Mei: It was really...
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Qiu Hua Mei: At first I felt quite offended.
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Qiu Hua Mei: Sometimes my older sister would say:
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Qiu Hua Mei: “There's still a bachelor in our village,
how about you marry him?”
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Qiu Hua Mei: That man is very old.
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Qiu Hua Mei: It hurt even more so
coming from my older sister.
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Qiu Hua Mei: It's awful.
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Woman: My entire family asks me questions, too,
but I never respond.
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Woman 2: If anyone said that to me,
I'd put them in their place
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until they became speechless.
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Woman 2: If the person continued, I'd use my fists.
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Woman 2: I'm not afraid of them and I can't go along
with their nonsense.
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Woman 2: They want to take control of my life.
I can't accept that.
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Qiu Hua Mei: I cause my parents to worry
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and when they show their concern,
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Qiu Hua Mei: I have to solve the...
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Woman: Do you really think your parents
worry about you?
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Qiu Hua Mei: Yes, yes.
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Qiu Hua Mei: They really worry about me.
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Qiu Hua Mei: If they show their concern,
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Qiu Hua Mei: I have the responsibility
and obligation to solve it.
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Qiu Hua Mei: So you agree with them?
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Qiu Hua Mei: No, I just want them to be calm.
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Woman 2: I'm not finished.
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Woman 2: Do you agree that they force you to marry
because they believe you'll be happier?
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Woman 2: Do you agree that the reason they do so
is for you to be happier?
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Woman 2: Do you agree?
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Qiu Hua Mei: Half.
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Woman: Half.
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Woman 2: Maybe the way I speak isn't so pleasant.
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Woman 2: Because what I want to say...
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Qiu Hua Mei: If you think it's unpleasant,
don't say it.
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Woman: You can't accept criticism of your family.
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Woman 2: Can't you accept any of my negative opinions
of your family?
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Qiu Hua Mei: You have no right to say such things.
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Qiu Hua Mei: This is my opinion.
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Woman: What you say makes sense.
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Qiu Hua Mei: Yeah.
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Woman: Sorry.
Qiu Hua Mei: -Okay.
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Qiu Hua Mei: Is Mom at home?
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Qui Hua Mei's Dad: Yes.
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Qiu Hua Mei's Dad: How long was the ride?
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Qiu Hua Mei: 4 or 5 hours.
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Qiu Hua Mei;s Dad: It's not a short trip.
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Qiu Hua Mei: I took the sleeper bus this time.
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Qiu Hua Mei's Dad: Is it expensive?
Qiu Hua Mei: -No, it's cheap.
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Qiu Hua Mei: Mom.
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Qiu Hua Mei;s Mum: Have you found your Mr. Right yet?
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Qiu Hua Mei: I don't want to find one.
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Qiu Hua Mei's Dad: You should consider getting married.
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Qiu Hua Mei's Dad: Honestly, I'm very worried.
Qiu Hua Mei: -You are?
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Qiu Hua Mei's dad: The law says people
should get married in their 20s.
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Qiu Hua Mei's dad: You're in your 30s and still not married?
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Qiu Hua Mei: What are the benefits of marriage?
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Qiu Hua Mei's Dad: It's not about benefits,
it's all about the right age.
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Qiu Hua Mei's Dad: When people ask me about you,
I don't know what to say.
00:19:54:11 00:19:58:19
Qiu Hua Mei: I can date someone
but I don't want to get married.
00:20:00:09 00:20:06:06
Qiu Hua Mei's Dad: Even our government believes that.
Otherwise why would they set these laws?
00:20:06:08 00:20:08:03
Qiu Hua Mei: You know why?
00:20:08:05 00:20:12:11
Qiu Hua Mei: In order to tell you how to divide
your property in case you get divorced.
00:20:12:14 00:20:14:13
Qiu Hua Mei's Dad: It's not like that.
Qiu Hua Mei: -It is.
00:20:14:22 00:20:18:05
Woman: How many people got divorced in our village?
Woman: It makes no sense.
00:20:18:10 00:20:21:09
Woman: All that schooling makes you dumb.
Woman: -It made her dumb.
00:20:21:11 00:20:27:01
Woman: You're highly educated and you don't want
someone at a lower level.
00:20:27:02 00:20:31:04
Qiu Hua Mei's Dad: The ones in a higher class
won't be interested in you.
00:20:31:17 00:20:34:11
Woman: People like you are rare.
00:20:34:20 00:20:36:01
Woman: Not normal.
00:20:37:09 00:20:44:19
Woman: Since you have a steady job,
you should consider getting married.
00:20:44:22 00:20:45:21
Qiu Hua Mei: I did consider it.
00:20:46:00 00:20:49:13
Qiu Hua Mei: I did consider it
and I've decided to remain single.
00:20:53:06 00:20:55:23
Woman: Why are you leaving?
00:20:57:23 00:21:01:11
Qiu Hua Mei's Mum: Let's discuss it all together.
00:21:02:22 00:21:05:13
Qiu Hua Mei's Sister: Dad is angry, so he left.
00:21:07:22 00:21:12:04
Qiu Hua Mei: Isn't her situation rare?
00:21:12:15 00:21:15:01
Qiu Hua Mei's Dad: I have five daughters
and she's the only one left.
00:21:15:03 00:21:18:19
Qiu Hua Mei's Sister: What she's doing is like joining a cult.
Very dumb.
00:21:21:15 00:21:26:16
Qiu Hua Mei's Mum:You don't care.
You only do whatever you want.
00:21:28:22 00:21:31:08
Qiu Hua Mei's Mum:I get sick all the time.
00:21:35:16 00:21:44:15
Qiu Hua Mei's Mum:After you get married,
I won't worry anymore.
00:21:46:23 00:21:51:00
Qiu Hua Mei's Dad: Honestly, you should get married
as soon as possible
00:21:51:05 00:21:54:11
Qiu Hua Mei's Dad: so Mom and I can lift the weight
from our shoulders.
00:21:54:13 00:21:56:19
Qiu Hua Mei's Dad: Don't let us bear it anymore.
00:21:56:21 00:21:58:13
Qiu Hua Mei's Dad: Whenever I think about this...
00:21:58:15 00:22:01:11
Qiu Hua Mei's Sister: Every day you remain single,
Mom and Dad worry more.
00:22:01:13 00:22:02:21
Qiu Hua Mei's Sister: Mom and Dad worry about you
all the time.
00:22:02:23 00:22:05:14
Qiu Hua Mei's Dad: I can't sleep at night.
00:22:05:16 00:22:08:21
Qiu Hua Mei's Sister: Dad and Mom never worry
about me or the others.
00:22:08:23 00:22:09:14
Qiu Hua Mei's Dad: Right.
00:22:10:12 00:22:12:21
Qiu Hua Mei's Sister: You're the only one they worry about.
00:22:18:13 00:22:20:11
Qiu Hua Mei's Dad: Why are you doing this?
00:22:24:23 00:22:31:08
Qiu Hua Mei's Dad: Since you graduated from university,
I've always been proud of you.
00:22:32:01 00:22:34:15
Qiu Hua Mei's Dad: Except for this matter.
00:22:35:13 00:22:43:06
Qiu Hua Mei's Dad: Since you were a kid,
I did whatever you asked.
00:22:43:08 00:22:46:04
Qiu Hua Mei's Dad: I gave you whatever you wanted.
00:22:47:19 00:22:54:15
Qiu Hua Mei's Dad: You passed the college exam and went to Beijing.
We were so poor and I still paid for your tuition.
00:22:56:23 00:22:59:11
Qiu Hua Mei's Dad: I said, "Even if I need to sell my blood,
I'll do it and pay for it."
00:23:00:01 00:23:07:05
Qiu Hua Mei's Dad: I rarely slept. I worked in the water, in the mud.
What for? To support you.
00:23:08:07 00:23:10:05
Qiu Hua Mei's Mum: You're too selfish.
00:23:10:23 00:23:12:05
Qiu Hua Mei: So...
00:23:17:16 00:23:24:03
Qiu Hua Mei: if I don't get married,
I'll be worthless, right?
00:23:24:05 00:23:26:01
Qiu Hua Mei's Mum: Sit up straight, HuaMei.
00:23:29:07 00:23:32:01
Qiu Hua Mei's Mum: I'm not saying you'd be worthless,
00:23:32:02 00:23:33:21
Qiu Hua Mei's Mum: but think about your future.
00:23:35:01 00:23:41:11
Qiu Hua Mei's Sister: How will your life look
when you're 45 years old?
00:23:41:13 00:23:46:20
Qiu Hua Mei: I've met happy people
in their 40s who didn't get married.
00:23:46:22 00:23:48:01
Qiu Hua Mei's Sister: Forget it.
00:23:48:14 00:23:51:23
Qiu Hua Mei's Sister: Our other sisters and I
worry about you all the time.
00:23:52:01 00:23:56:01
Qiu Hua Mei's Sister: When you get sick, who can you call?
Who will take care of you?
00:23:57:21 00:24:02:01
Qiu Hua Mei's Sister: It's tiring to start a family
but who doesn't want to have one?
00:24:02:07 00:24:06:06
Qiu Hua Mei: Will I be condemned for not getting married?
Qiu Hua Mei's Sister: -Yes, you will.
00:24:06:14 00:24:09:21
Qiu Hua Mei's Sister: If you don't get married,
your happiness isn't real happiness.
00:24:12:14 00:24:14:19
Qiu Hua Mei: You think you're happier than me?
Qiu Hua Mei's Sister: -Yes.
00:24:14:21 00:24:15:11
Qiu Hua Mei: Why?
00:24:15:13 00:24:16:20
Qiu Hua Mei's Sister: Of course I'm happier than you.
00:24:17:07 00:24:18:13
Qiu Hua Mei's Sister: When we were little...
00:24:18:16 00:24:21:18
Qiu Hua Mei: Your happiness is bullshit.
Qiu Hua Mei: You're not unhappy because of me.
00:24:21:22 00:24:25:15
Qiu Hua Mei: What's the point of having children?
It's useless! I'd rather not have them!
00:24:25:22 00:24:27:16
Qiu Hua Mei's Sister: Stop it, we can't talk you into it.
00:24:27:23 00:24:31:16
Qiu Hua Mei: I'm not saying
I want to stay single my whole life.
00:24:31:18 00:24:35:04
Qiu Hua Mei: You say seeing your child growing up
makes you happy.
00:24:35:05 00:24:39:09
Qiu Hua Mei: It's bullshit. After all,
I don't bring you any happiness, do I?
00:24:41:23 00:24:47:11
Qiu Hua Mei: If I were you, I wouldn't want to have a kid like me.
I don't want any kids!
00:24:47:12 00:24:51:10
Qiu Hua Mei: Do you know what you're causing?
How our neighbors will gossip about us?
00:24:54:15 00:25:01:03
Qiu Hua Mei: After you leave, how will people
look at us, what will they say?
00:25:05:17 00:25:08:13
Qiu Hua Mei: Why don't you leave now?
Don't stay here anymore.
00:25:08:15 00:25:10:11
Qiu Hua Mei's Dad: What are you doing?
00:25:11:10 00:25:15:11
Qiu Hua Mei's Mum: You come home every six months,
which is bad enough as it is.
00:25:15:13 00:25:20:16
Qiu Hua Mei's Mum: You forget me and I forget you.
I'll just let my heart die.
00:25:25:14 00:25:31:18
Qiu Hua Mei's Mum: If you don't come home,
the problem will be solved.
00:25:50:19 00:25:56:15
Gai Qi's Mum: As a mother, it's the happiest thing
to see my daughter getting married.
00:25:56:16 00:26:02:13
Gai Qi's Mum: You're getting married today.
It's a big event for our family.
00:26:02:18 00:26:06:15
Gai Qi's Mum: I've been looking forward to it for a long time.
It's my wish.
00:26:06:18 00:26:09:06
Gai Qi: You're more excited than I am.
00:26:10:02 00:26:11:06
Gai Qi's Mum: Right.
00:26:11:18 00:26:17:06
Gai Qi's Mum: Getting married and having a baby
at the same time isn't easy.
00:26:18:17 00:26:23:11
Gai Qi: It's not that hard.
When water flows, a channel is formed.
00:26:25:07 00:26:29:05
Gai Qi's Mum: You have to give up something
for your marriage.
00:26:31:17 00:26:35:16
Gai Qi's Mum: For thousands of years,
this is the custom of human beings.
00:26:37:06 00:26:41:16
Gai Qi's Mum: We can't break the rules.
00:26:42:15 00:26:46:13
Gai Qi's Mum: You should walk on the same road
that regular people walk.
00:27:18:02 00:27:21:11
"Civil servant looking for a girl
with at least a college degree"
00:27:48:19 00:27:50:01
Woman: Who is it?
00:27:50:03 00:27:51:11
Aishan: We came to pick her up.
00:27:51:16 00:27:53:11
Woman: Who is picking her up?
00:27:53:13 00:27:54:21
Aishan: The groom.
00:27:55:01 00:27:55:21
Woman: Who is the groom?
00:27:56:00 00:27:57:05
Aishan: Aishan.
00:27:57:08 00:27:58:06
Woman: It's Aishan?
00:27:59:14 00:28:02:05
Women 2: Did you prepare anything for the bride?
00:28:02:07 00:28:04:08
Aishan: I'm carrying all the stuff.
00:28:04:11 00:28:06:11
Woman 2: Sing a love song.
00:28:07:12 00:28:08:15
Aishan: No problem.
00:28:08:19 00:28:09:16
Woman 2: Go ahead.
00:28:09:19 00:28:11:14
Aishan: Any particular song?
00:28:12:09 00:28:14:06
Woman 2: Sing a song that you're good at.
00:28:16:13 00:28:22:15
Aishan: Once I saw you in the crowd....
00:28:22:18 00:28:26:11
Aishan: I could never forget your face.
00:28:27:18 00:28:32:16
Aishan: I didn't know we'd meet again.
00:28:32:20 00:28:37:23
Aishan: I started missing you…
00:28:39:16 00:28:40:03
Gai Qi: Are you done?
00:28:40:06 00:28:42:11
Aishan: Yes.
00:28:42:16 00:28:43:04
Gai Qi: Thank you.
00:28:44:00 00:28:46:11
Aishan: Gai Qi, we've known each other for a little while
00:28:46:14 00:28:49:23
Aishan: and though we haven’t been together
for a long time,
00:28:50:01 00:28:52:16
Aishan: we'll walk together in the future.
00:28:52:20 00:28:59:03
Aishan: In the future, we'll be a family,
have our child and be together.
00:28:59:06 00:29:01:13
Aishan: We'll have a happy life.
00:29:01:14 00:29:02:21
Gai Qi: Okay.
00:29:03:00 00:29:04:06
Gai Qi: It's a symbol.
00:29:06:06 00:29:08:09
Woman: Aishan, you should look for the shoes now.
00:29:09:13 00:29:11:01
Aishan: It's hard to find the shoes.
00:29:12:16 00:29:14:10
Aishan: Is it under your skirt?
00:29:21:01 00:29:22:04
Gai Qi: You found it!
00:29:22:07 00:29:23:06
Aishan: You're welcome.
00:29:30:01 00:29:31:13
Gai Qi: You can't even tell the right and left.
00:29:33:00 00:29:35:03
Gai Qi: After I put on the shoes,
I'll be taller than you.
00:29:35:12 00:29:37:00
Aishan: I don't mind.
00:30:38:20 00:30:40:19
Man: Greet the newlyweds!
00:30:40:22 00:30:43:19
Man: Congratulate the groom and bride!
00:30:43:22 00:30:46:19
Man: Big red ball and big flower sedan.
00:30:46:22 00:30:50:01
Man: Greet the newlyweds and set off the firecrackers!
00:30:51:17 00:30:55:16
Gai Qi: Aishan, I'm more excited than I expected.
00:30:55:20 00:31:02:18
Gai Qi: I have a background in literature
but I won't give a flowery speech.
00:31:02:21 00:31:08:10
Gai Qi: I only want to have and create
the most civil happiness with you.
00:31:12:06 00:31:15:10
Woman: In this lifetime, you are my only love.
00:31:15:10 00:31:19:05
Woman: Husband and wife bow to each other,
first bow.
00:31:33:14 00:31:34:20
Xu Min: They look old.
00:31:34:23 00:31:37:21
Xu Min's Friend: Yes, they're too old.
00:31:39:00 00:31:40:13
Xu Min: He looks all right.
00:31:40:16 00:31:42:08
Xu Min: No, not really.
00:31:42:23 00:31:47:10
Xu Min: Even someone one or two years
younger than me is fine.
00:31:47:13 00:31:49:19
Xu Min: The main thing is his job.
00:31:49:22 00:31:51:21
Xu Min's Friend: You can filter the job.
00:31:52:00 00:31:52:11
Xu Min: Where?
00:31:52:14 00:31:54:16
Xu Min's Friend: Go up.
00:31:54:20 00:31:56:10
Xu Min: A public servant.
00:31:56:12 00:32:00:01
Xu Min: An IT employee or an engineer.
00:32:00:09 00:32:03:06
Xu Min: If he works in finance, it's okay.
00:32:03:10 00:32:08:08
Xu Min: Finance, public servant, manager, engineer...
they can all work for me.
00:32:08:12 00:32:11:04
Xu Min: House, must own a house.
00:32:11:04 00:32:13:11
Xu Min's Friend: His family background
can't be worse than yours.
00:32:13:15 00:32:14:10
Xu Min: Yes.
00:32:14:18 00:32:15:11
Xu Min's Friend: Height.
00:32:15:15 00:32:16:21
Xu Min: Oh, height.
00:32:17:00 00:32:18:01
Xu Min: 170 cm.
00:32:18:03 00:32:19:20
Xu Min's Friend: Do you have requirements for his height?
00:32:20:05 00:32:23:09
Xu Min: I'll say, 175 cm.
00:32:23:14 00:32:25:10
Xu Min: Chinese zodiac sign... doesn't matter.
00:32:25:13 00:32:26:20
Xu Min's Friend: You can select more filters.
00:32:26:23 00:32:29:01
Xu Min: Originally from Beijing.
00:32:29:03 00:32:30:20
Xu Min's Friend: No, it's here.
00:32:32:16 00:32:34:13
Xu Min's Friend: If they're from the countryside,
would you consider it?
00:32:34:15 00:32:35:16
Xu Min: No.
00:32:35:19 00:32:37:11
Xu Min's friend: You can't accept a family
from the countryside?
00:32:42:01 00:32:44:14
Xu Min: Look, here are the results.
00:32:44:17 00:32:46:11
Xu Min: What do you think?
00:32:46:13 00:32:47:14
Xu Min's Friend: This one.
00:34:33:02 00:34:39:01
Qiu Hua Mei: Mom, how long has that cotton
been sitting there?
00:34:40:02 00:34:43:23
Qiu Hua Mei's Mum: I made it 6 or 7 years ago.
00:34:45:05 00:34:48:11
Qiu Hua Mei: You should get rid of your old quilts.
00:34:48:15 00:34:50:13
Qiu Hua Mei: It would be nice to use new ones.
00:34:50:15 00:34:55:00
Qiu Hua Mei: You don't need to make any for me.
Even if I got married now,
00:34:55:03 00:34:59:15
Qiu Hua Mei: in Beijing people don't give quilts
as wedding gifts.
00:34:59:17 00:35:02:01
Qiu Hua Mei's Mum: No quilt as a wedding gift?
00:35:02:20 00:35:04:11
Qiu Hua Mei's Mum: But I want to give it to you.
00:35:04:23 00:35:08:04
Qiu Hua Mei: If you really want to give it to me,
one quilt is more than enough.
00:35:08:06 00:35:10:10
Qiu Hua Mei: Where can I put all those quilts?
00:35:10:12 00:35:12:08
Qiu Hua Mei's Mum: You can make 10 to 20 quilts from that.
00:35:12:10 00:35:14:06
Qiu Hua Mei: It's silly.
00:35:15:00 00:35:25:01
Qiu Hua Mei: Every time I come home,
I see that cotton and it stresses me out.
00:35:25:13 00:35:29:11
Qiu Hua Mei's Mum: You only come home a few days a year.
How much pressure could it give you?
00:35:29:12 00:35:32:06
Qiu Hua Mei's Mum: If you don't see it, it won't bother you.
00:35:32:08 00:35:36:01
Qiu Hua Mei: It annoys me every time I come home.
00:35:39:19 00:35:44:11
Qiu Hua Mei's Mum: Whenever we talk about your marriage,
00:35:45:00 00:35:48:21
Qiu Hua Mei's Mum: you don't want to listen,
which makes others mad.
00:35:50:00 00:35:55:18
Qiu Hua Mei's Mum: After leaving home this time,
you have to give your hand to marriage.
00:35:55:20 00:35:59:11
Qiu Hua Mei's Mum: Please promise me.
00:36:34:21 00:36:36:13
Dating Agent: Hello.
00:36:37:00 00:36:38:20
Dating Agent: Mr. Li is here.
Let's go to the meeting room.
00:36:38:23 00:36:40:00
Qiu Hua Mei: Okay.
00:36:44:06 00:36:46:11
Dating Agent: He's been waiting for a few minutes.
00:36:46:14 00:36:47:09
Dating Agent: He got here earlier.
00:36:47:11 00:36:48:04
Dating Agent: A little earlier than you.
00:36:48:07 00:36:50:01
Dating Agent: Mr. Li.
00:36:50:05 00:36:52:01
Dating Agent: This is HuaMei.
00:36:52:04 00:36:55:11
Qui Hua Mei: Hello.
00:36:55:15 00:36:57:03
Dating Agent: Have a seat.
00:36:59:03 00:37:00:01
Dating Agent: I'll bring you some water.
00:37:00:05 00:37:01:06
Qui Hua Mei: Thank you.
00:37:01:10 00:37:04:13
Dating Agent: Please wait for me,
you can chat first.
00:37:04:17 00:37:05:18
Qiu Hua Mei: You got here earlier?
00:37:05:21 00:37:07:05
Mr. Li: I just arrived.
00:37:07:08 00:37:08:16
Mr. Li: I live close by.
00:37:10:07 00:37:11:16
Mr. Li: Thank you.
00:37:12:03 00:37:14:18
Dating Agent: You're welcome, please chat.
00:37:14:21 00:37:16:11
Dating Agent: Call me if you have any questions.
00:37:18:01 00:37:18:21
Mr. Li:nWhere were you born?
00:37:19:00 00:37:20:08
Qiu Hua Mei: Bing Zhou.
00:37:20:11 00:37:23:01
Mr. Li: Bing Zhou? Where in Bing Zhou?
00:37:25:01 00:37:27:09
Qiu Hua Mei: She said you're from Bing Zhou, too.
00:37:27:12 00:37:29:10
Mr. Li: Yes, I am.
00:37:29:13 00:37:30:21
Mr. Li: It's destiny. Where in Bing Zhou?
00:37:31:00 00:37:32:14
Qiu Hua Mei: Wudi, Bing Zhou.
00:37:32:17 00:37:33:13
Mr. Li: Really?
00:37:33:16 00:37:34:19
Qiu Hua Mei: How about you?
00:37:35:13 00:37:37:00
Mr. Li: Where in Wudi?
00:37:37:02 00:37:39:03
Qiu Hua Mei: It's true.
00:37:39:06 00:37:42:01
Qiu Hua Mei: Dashan.
00:37:43:18 00:37:44:15
Qiu Hua Mei: How about you?
00:37:44:18 00:37:45:21
Mr. Li: I'm from the county town.
00:37:46:11 00:37:49:00
Mr. Li: It's such a small town.
00:37:49:02 00:37:50:06
Mr. Li: There is no development.
00:37:50:10 00:37:55:06
Mr.Li: My friends and classmates who still live there
all got married and have children.
00:37:55:10 00:37:57:19
Qiu Hua Mei: Do you feel the pressure?
00:37:58:07 00:37:59:23
Mr. Li: My parents are worried.
00:38:00:01 00:38:01:14
Qiu Hua Mei: Are you an only child?
00:38:01:17 00:38:02:11
Mr. Li: Yes.
00:38:02:14 00:38:03:11
Qiu Hua Mei: No wonder.
00:38:03:19 00:38:04:15
Mr. Li: Are you an only child?
00:38:04:18 00:38:05:11
Qiu Hua Mei: No.
00:38:05:13 00:38:06:18
Qiu Hua Mei: We are five children.
00:38:07:05 00:38:09:11
Mr. Li: You have so many siblings.
00:38:09:12 00:38:10:08
Mr. Li: All girls.
00:38:10:11 00:38:12:06
Qiu Hua Mei: Yes.
00:38:12:09 00:38:14:14
Qiu Hua Mei: They wanted to have a son.
00:38:15:11 00:38:17:00
Qiu Hua Mei: Otherwise, they wouldn't have had
so many children.
00:38:17:02 00:38:22:06
Qiu Hua Mei: If a family has many daughters,
it means they were hoping for a son.
00:38:26:23 00:38:33:19
Qiu Hua Mei: People in Shandong are traditional,
male chauvinism is very common.
00:38:33:22 00:38:38:13
Qiu hua Mei: I know it, my family is like that.
00:38:38:16 00:38:48:08
Qiu Hua Mei: My dad is the head of our family.
My mom is the queen but her rank is second.
00:38:48:10 00:38:50:08
Qiu Hua Mei: Is your family like that?
00:38:51:01 00:38:56:11
Mr. Li: In the past, like your family,
my dad made all the decisions.
00:38:56:14 00:39:00:21
Mr; Li: When my mom had less income,
she was vulnerable.
00:39:01:01 00:39:03:01
Mr. Li: She just listened.
00:39:03:05 00:39:08:06
Mr. Li: In the past few years,
my mom has a higher income.
00:39:08:09 00:39:13:01
Mr. Li: She has supported our family financially.
00:39:13:04 00:39:16:06
Mr. Li: She's getting stronger.
00:39:16:09 00:39:22:15
Qiu Hua Mei: After you get married,
will you continue that kind of pattern?
00:39:22:19 00:39:24:09
Mr. Li: I think...
00:39:24:11 00:39:28:18
Mr. Li: Like you said, every man in Shandong
is a male chauvinist
00:39:28:22 00:39:32:10
Mr. Li: but there are various degrees.
00:39:33:08 00:39:38:16
Mr. Li: In my marriage,
I'm hoping to be dominant.
00:39:38:21 00:39:40:01
Qiu Hua Mei: Dominant?
00:39:40:05 00:39:41:10
Mr. Li: I want to be dominant in my family.
00:39:41:13 00:39:44:11
Mr. Li: For example,
00:39:44:15 00:39:46:19
Mr. Li: It could be 50-50.
00:39:46:22 00:39:52:01
Mr. Li: But I hope I'm 50+ percent
and she's 40+ percent.
00:39:52:05 00:39:55:16
Mr. Li: On matters that I don't know enough about,
I can be in a lower position.
00:39:55:20 00:40:01:14
Mr. Li: For example, if we discuss legal issues,
I'll definitely listen to your advice.
00:40:02:05 00:40:04:11
Mr. Li: Because I don't understand.
As for the electric appliances,
00:40:04:15 00:40:07:00
Mr. Li: I research about cell phones and TV,
00:40:07:02 00:40:11:01
Mr. Li: as a woman, you shouldn't give advice,
just tell me what you need.
00:40:11:03 00:40:12:16
Mr. Li: I'll make the decision.
00:40:13:13 00:40:18:06
Mr. Li: I don't want my wife
to be stronger than me.
00:40:18:16 00:40:24:19
Mr. Li: Suddenly making decisions alone…
00:41:09:20 00:41:12:01
Qiu Hua Mei: What kind of girl are you looking for?
00:41:13:04 00:41:16:01
Blind Date Candidate: That's a hard question to answer.
00:41:16:15 00:41:21:00
Blind Date Candidate: At my age...
00:41:21:02 00:41:23:08
Blind Date Candidate: I've passed the age of falling in love.
00:41:23:11 00:41:25:01
Qiu Hua Mei: You've passed the age of falling in love.
00:41:25:03 00:41:31:16
Qiu Hua Mei: Instead of falling in love,
you want to get married?
00:42:00:02 00:42:00:20
Zhang Xu: Are you HuaMei?
00:42:00:23 00:42:02:01
Qiu Hua Mei: Yes.
00:42:02:03 00:42:02:16
Zhang Xu: I am Zhang Xu.
00:42:02:20 00:42:03:15
Qiu Hua Mei: Hi.
00:42:03:18 00:42:05:13
Zhang Xu: Nice to meet you.
00:42:07:00 00:42:08:11
Zhang Xu: You look better than your photo.
00:42:08:15 00:42:09:15
Qiu Hua Mei: Thank you.
00:42:10:10 00:42:12:05
Zhang Xu: Where are you from?
Qiu Hua Mei: -Shandong.
00:42:15:20 00:42:20:11
Zhang Xu: When I dated girls from out of town,
I was stressed out.
00:42:58:01 00:43:00:05
Qiu HUa Mei: Hi, Dad.
00:43:00:08 00:43:02:11
Qiu Hua Mei's Dad: Hi, HuaMei.
00:43:02:14 00:43:04:13
Qiu Hua Mei: Is Mom there?
00:43:04:16 00:43:06:01
Qiu Hua Mei's Dad: She's in the kitchen.
00:43:07:14 00:43:09:06
Qiu Hua Mei: All right.
00:43:11:07 00:43:13:06
Qiu Hua Mei's Dad:Call her back a bit later.
00:43:15:12 00:43:17:11
Qiu Hua Mei: I'm gonna hang up.
00:43:17:15 00:43:19:10
Qiu Hue Mei: Bye bye.
00:44:19:08 00:44:24:09
Xu Min: I didn't sleep well last night.
00:44:29:00 00:44:31:11
Xu Min: My parents put me under lots of pressure.
00:44:33:01 00:44:34:16
Woman: How old are you?
Xu Min: -28.
00:44:34:20 00:44:38:01
Xu Min: 28 years old.
Woman: -You're still young.
00:44:38:03 00:44:40:01
Xu Min: But my mom thinks I'm old.
00:44:40:05 00:44:44:04
Xu Min: She had me when she was 27.
00:44:44:07 00:44:46:01
Woman: "You're 28 and you haven't found..."
00:44:46:03 00:44:50:10
Xu Min: It's not that I can't find the one.
00:44:50:13 00:44:53:01
Xu Min: I'm anxious.
00:44:53:05 00:44:57:04
Xu Min: My parents are very picky.
00:44:57:07 00:45:01:00
Xu Min: Every time I found someone,
they disapproved.
00:45:01:03 00:45:03:00
Xu Min: They only saw the downside of that person.
00:45:03:04 00:45:04:14
Woman: Your goal is to make your mom happy.
00:45:04:15 00:45:05:16
Xu Min: No, no.
00:45:06:07 00:45:10:01
Woman: If he's qualified but your mom disapproves,
00:45:10:04 00:45:13:14
Woman: what is the chance you'd also disapprove?
00:45:13:18 00:45:16:11
Xu Min: 80% or 90%.
00:45:17:01 00:45:19:11
Xu Min: I'm so used to being obedient.
00:45:19:15 00:45:22:01
Xu Min: Since I was little.
00:45:22:04 00:45:26:19
Woman: This is the core of your problems.
00:45:26:22 00:45:29:10
Woman: 80% depends on your mom's approval.
00:45:29:13 00:45:31:11
Woman: It seems your mom has high standards.
00:45:31:15 00:45:32:09
Xu Min: Yes, very high.
00:45:32:11 00:45:34:18
Xu Min: My mom is too picky, pickier than me.
00:45:34:22 00:45:43:01
Woman: Based on what you said, your mom is the biggest
obstacle in your romantic relationships.
00:45:43:08 00:45:46:18
Woman: Please close your eyes
and think of a scene.
00:45:46:22 00:45:51:16
Woman: A scene where you didn't
listen to your mom.
00:45:52:01 00:45:53:09
Xu Min: Just fighting.
00:45:53:12 00:45:55:03
Woman: Think of a scene.
00:45:55:06 00:45:57:10
Xu Min: One day, I was in the car with her.
00:45:57:13 00:45:58:18
Woman: How old were you?
00:45:58:21 00:46:02:05
Xu Min: It happened recently.
00:46:02:08 00:46:08:09
Xu Min: I was driving, my mom sat in the back.
00:46:08:12 00:46:11:16
Xu Min: We were arguing about someone.
00:46:12:19 00:46:14:23
Xu Min: I thought that person was good.
00:46:15:05 00:46:17:15
Xu Min: She didn't like him.
00:46:17:19 00:46:19:06
xu Min: She thought he wasn't qualified.
00:46:19:10 00:46:21:06
Xu Min: We fought in the car.
00:46:21:10 00:46:23:18
Xu Min: She closed the door and left.
She does that all the time.
00:46:24:08 00:46:27:05
Xu Min: I was upset, I cried.
00:46:27:08 00:46:29:00
Woman: Why were you upset?
00:46:30:03 00:46:35:11
Xu Min: When I was little, if I didn't listen to my mom,
she'd leave me on the street.
00:46:35:15 00:46:37:06
Woman: Close your eyes.
00:46:37:10 00:46:41:08
Woman: Think of a scene where you didn't
listen to her and she left.
00:46:41:11 00:46:42:11
Xu Min: She forbade me to cry.
00:46:42:15 00:46:46:01
Xu Min: She left and forbade me to cry.
00:46:46:03 00:46:48:11
Woman: You couldn't cry?
Xu Min: -She forbade me from crying.
00:46:48:21 00:46:51:01
Woman: Think of the scene
when you were 2 or 3 years old.
00:46:51:03 00:46:52:11
Woman: What happened?
00:46:52:14 00:46:53:11
Woman: Winter or summer?
00:46:53:15 00:46:55:15
Xu Min: Summer.
00:46:55:18 00:46:57:04
Woman: When you were 2-3 years old?
00:46:57:07 00:47:02:06
Xu Min: We went to buy some cookies.
00:47:02:10 00:47:06:11
Xu Min: At the market in the alley.
00:47:06:15 00:47:09:08
Xu Min: And then,
00:47:09:10 00:47:13:01
Xu Min: I forgot the details.
Anyway, I didn't listen to her.
00:47:13:04 00:47:16:23
Xu Min: She pulled my hand
and wanted to take me away.
00:47:17:01 00:47:18:03
Xu Min: I wouldn't move.
00:47:18:06 00:47:22:01
Xu Min: She left me there and walked away.
00:47:22:03 00:47:24:11
Xu Min: I found my way home, it wasn't far.
00:47:24:16 00:47:26:23
Xu Min: But…
Woman: -She left?
00:47:27:01 00:47:29:06
Woman: If you don't listen to her,
she'll abandon you.
00:47:29:09 00:47:31:04
Xu Min: Yes.
00:47:31:07 00:47:34:11
Woman: Look at the scene.
00:47:34:15 00:47:36:15
Woman: You're 2 years old,
00:47:36:18 00:47:39:21
Woman: your mom left you.
00:47:40:00 00:47:41:03
Xu Min: Yes.
00:47:41:06 00:47:44:21
Woman: Look at yourself, you're 2 years old.
00:47:48:15 00:47:49:16
Xu Min: She was crying.
00:47:49:20 00:47:50:11
Woman: What?
00:47:50:15 00:47:53:01
Xu Min: She was crying, very loud.
00:47:53:04 00:47:54:16
Xu Min: She cried loudly on the street.
00:47:54:19 00:47:55:16
Xu Min: She couldn't find her mom.
00:47:55:20 00:48:02:11
Woman: When you see this 2–year-old,
what do you want to do?
00:48:04:00 00:48:07:04
Xu Min: I walk up to her
and ask her not to cry.
00:48:07:07 00:48:09:15
Woman: When you see her,
do you feel sorry or annoyed?
00:48:09:19 00:48:11:11
Xu Min: I feel sorry for her.
00:48:11:14 00:48:15:23
Woman:Do you want to give her a hug?
00:48:31:07 00:48:32:14
Xu Min: She's sad.
00:48:32:18 00:48:34:16
Woman: Right. What do you want to tell her?
00:48:34:19 00:48:37:19
Xu Min: Don't cry. I'll give her a hug.
00:48:37:22 00:48:39:23
Xu Min: Don't cry.
00:48:40:01 00:48:41:21
Woman: What else will you say?
00:48:44:13 00:48:50:08
Xu Min: I'll keep hugging her
00:48:50:10 00:48:53:04
Xu Min: and telling her, don't cry, don't be sad.
00:48:53:07 00:48:55:09
Xu Min: I'll accompany her.
00:48:56:09 00:48:59:13
Xu Min: I think she'll be upset for a long time.
00:49:01:04 00:49:03:14
Woman: What do you want to tell your mom?
00:49:03:18 00:49:05:14
Woman: What do you want to tell her?
00:49:09:06 00:49:13:16
Xu Min: Don't abandon me.
00:49:13:20 00:49:17:00
Woman: Mom, don't abandon me.
00:49:17:02 00:49:20:00
Woman: What else will you tell your mom?
00:49:20:02 00:49:21:08
Xu Min: I'll be obedient in the future.
00:49:23:05 00:49:25:10
Woman: What else will you tell your mom?
00:49:25:13 00:49:29:21
Xu Min: Don't be angry.
00:49:30:00 00:49:31:23
Woman: It's your mom's fault.
00:49:32:09 00:49:34:19
Woman: It's not your fault.
Xu Min: -I know.
00:49:35:20 00:49:40:06
Woman: You're an independent, mature woman.
00:49:41:14 00:49:44:14
Woman: You can express yourself well.
00:49:54:04 00:49:55:09
Man: Where are you from?
00:49:55:12 00:49:56:21
Man: Beijing.
00:49:58:15 00:50:02:06
"Male. 180 cm. Business administration.
Bachelor's degree. Lives on his own."
00:50:03:22 00:50:07:00
Qiu Hua Mei: Is a permanent Beijing residency required?
00:50:09:09 00:50:12:06
Qiu Hua Mei: Is everyone asking for it?
00:50:12:09 00:50:13:09
Woan: Who is looking?
00:50:13:12 00:50:15:01
Qiu Hua Mei: Me.
00:50:17:13 00:50:19:09
Qiu Hua Mei: He looks nice.
00:50:20:00 00:50:21:14
Qiu Hua Mei: He doesn't come here in person?
00:50:21:17 00:50:23:01
Woman: No.
00:50:23:21 00:50:28:19
Qiu Hua Mei: Why does he need you to do it for him?
00:50:28:22 00:50:31:20
Woman: I just want to find his match.
00:50:39:01 00:50:40:16
Qiu Hua Mei: I'm a lawyer.
00:50:41:00 00:50:42:16
Woman: In which law firm do you work?
00:50:42:20 00:50:44:19
Qiu Hua Mei: The owner of the law firm
is from Hong Kong.
00:50:46:03 00:50:50:16
Woman: Lawyers are too bossy. Once you use
the law against us, it'll be over for us.
00:50:50:19 00:50:54:00
Qiu Hua Mei: But a lawyer wouldn't bully
her own family members.
00:50:54:02 00:50:58:03
Woman: What if you get into a fight?
00:50:58:06 00:51:01:01
Woman: She'll bring up the law.
00:51:01:03 00:51:02:11
Woman: I can't stand it.
00:51:02:14 00:51:05:11
Woman: Lawyers like to use many laws.
00:51:05:14 00:51:09:14
Woman: Civil law, criminal law... too many.
00:51:09:17 00:51:12:11
Qiu Hua Mei: What is your son's job?
00:51:12:15 00:51:14:18
Woman: Let's call it a day.
00:51:14:21 00:51:16:06
Woman: I'm scared.
00:51:20:21 00:51:22:11
Woman: You're scaring an old lady.
00:51:25:01 00:51:26:01
Woman: Thank you.
00:51:26:03 00:51:27:11
Qiu Hua Mei: Thank you, too.
00:51:32:09 00:51:34:10
Man: He's good looking.
00:51:37:00 00:51:38:15
Man: He has a Master's degree.
00:51:43:04 00:51:46:11
Man: Please give me your contact info.
00:52:06:16 00:52:09:16
Woman: You've changed a lot in one year.
00:52:09:19 00:52:13:09
Woman: You didn't have a boyfriend before
the Chinese New Year.
00:52:13:11 00:52:19:11
Woman: Suddenly you got married,
got pregnant and changed your job, too.
00:52:19:16 00:52:22:01
Woman: You'll go to Guangzhou soon.
Woman 2: -There are many changes this year.
00:52:22:09 00:52:26:05
Gai Qi: I didn't mean to do all this in one year
because I was running out of time.
00:52:26:08 00:52:29:23
Gai Qi: At first,
I just wanted to find a new job.
00:52:30:01 00:52:36:06
Gai Qi: My current job isn't right for me.
00:52:36:09 00:52:38:11
Gai Qi: And then...
00:52:38:16 00:52:42:08
Gai Qi: Guangzhou University
will give me a nice salary.
00:52:42:10 00:52:47:11
Gai Qi: I must take care of my mom's retirement.
It'll be easier to do it there.
00:52:48:20 00:52:53:01
Gai Qi: My husband's last day of work
was yesterday.
00:52:53:02 00:52:55:11
Woman 2: I just read an article on WeChat.
00:52:55:16 00:53:02:21
Woman 2: It said that the rate of husbands younger
than their wives…
00:53:03:01 00:53:03:21
Gai Qi: I read it, too.
00:53:04:01 00:53:05:08
Woman 2: You did?
Gai Qi: -40%.
00:53:05:20 00:53:08:21
Woman 2: It has increased a lot,
it'll keep increasing.
00:53:09:14 00:53:15:18
Woman: I still want to marry someone
who's older than me.
00:53:16:04 00:53:22:08
Woman: I like dominant men
with more life experience.
00:53:24:09 00:53:27:00
Woman: You two are both very strong.
00:53:30:12 00:53:32:18
Xu Min's Mum: Your grandma was the same as me.
00:53:33:13 00:53:35:19
Xu Min's Mum: She also pushed me to get married.
00:53:36:17 00:53:39:09
Xu Min: Did Dad meet Grandma's standards?
00:53:39:11 00:53:41:16
Xu Min's Mum: Yes.
00:53:41:21 00:53:45:08
Xu Min: You married him
because he met her standards.
00:53:45:11 00:53:50:09
Xu Min: What if Dad hadn’t met Grandma's standards,
would you have still married him?
00:53:50:12 00:53:53:01
Xu Min's Mum: It's hard to say.
00:53:53:05 00:53:59:06
Xu Min: You also cared about your mom's opinion?
00:54:02:17 00:54:10:16
Xu Min: You married Dad because you have
a similar family background.
00:54:10:20 00:54:12:05
Xu Min's Mum: Yes.
00:54:14:13 00:54:20:08
Xu Min's Mum: When we lived next to each other,
his parents liked me.
00:54:20:19 00:54:24:19
Xu Min's Mum: At that time, I didn't have strong feelings for him.
00:54:24:23 00:54:32:16
Xu Min's Mum: But when I looked for my match,
it wasn't easy.
00:54:33:06 00:54:39:19
Xu Min's Mum: Finally it took us three months
to date and get married.
00:54:41:12 00:54:45:15
Xu Min's Mum: If he wasn't my match,
my mom wouldn't agree.
00:54:45:19 00:54:47:11
Xu Min: Right.
00:54:47:14 00:54:52:05
Xu Min: In the past, whenever I found
my match, you disagreed.
00:54:52:07 00:54:53:16
Xu Min: Why?
00:54:54:22 00:54:56:16
Xu Min: Initially, I thought I found my match.
00:54:57:07 00:55:02:08
Xu Min: Your interference made me upset
and I gave up because you disapproved.
00:55:03:01 00:55:06:23
Xu Min: In the future, don't interfere.
00:55:14:09 00:55:21:04
Xu Min: You liked to control me since I was little.
00:55:21:07 00:55:25:21
Xu Min: I could never win an argument with you.
00:55:26:00 00:55:29:01
Xu Min: I can't resist so I endure it.
00:55:29:05 00:55:32:01
Xu Min: But I'm actually very angry.
00:55:37:14 00:55:43:14
Xu Min: I can talk to Dad easily
because he cares about what I think.
00:55:44:18 00:55:49:21
Xu Min: I always felt your thoughts are
very different from our thoughts.
00:55:50:17 00:55:54:20
Xu Min: We're both afraid of you.
00:55:54:23 00:55:59:01
Xu Min: Dad and I don't want to argue with you.
00:55:59:05 00:56:02:18
Xu Min: We can never win an argument with you.
00:56:02:21 00:56:05:06
Xu Min: I get along well with Dad.
00:56:05:09 00:56:10:00
Xu Min: When you're not home,
Dad and I get along very well.
00:56:10:02 00:56:11:06
Xu Min: We don't fight.
00:56:11:09 00:56:13:05
Xu Min: But when you're home...
00:56:14:02 00:56:15:10
Xu Min's Mum: What I say is always wrong, right?
00:56:15:13 00:56:19:03
Xu Mn: Not all wrong, but your thoughts
are very different from ours .
00:56:19:05 00:56:21:11
Xu Min: We're both rational.
00:56:21:15 00:56:27:01
Xu Min: Dad and I have higher IQs.
00:56:27:03 00:56:31:04
Xu Min: I think Dad and I are smarter.
00:56:31:07 00:56:33:11
Xu Min's Mum: It depends on how you use your smarts.
00:56:33:18 00:56:36:23
Xu Min: The ones I choose should be right.
00:56:37:01 00:56:40:00
Xu Min: I won't choose weirdos,
I'm picky, too.
00:56:40:02 00:56:41:20
Xu Min's Mum: Whoever you choose is fine.
00:56:45:09 00:56:47:15
Xu Min: You don't respect us.
00:56:48:02 00:56:53:05
Xu Min: You don't respect us.
00:56:53:08 00:57:02:11
Xu Min: Sometimes I wonder why Dad married you.
Why did he marry you?
00:57:02:16 00:57:04:19
Xu Min's Mum: Do you mean that?
00:57:07:11 00:57:12:13
Xu Min's Mum: We paid a lot of tuition for your kindergarten,
elementary school and middle school.
00:57:13:00 00:57:15:13
Xu Min's Mum: After raising you,
we became good for nothing.
00:57:15:16 00:57:16:20
Xu Min: I didn't say you're good for nothing.
00:57:16:23 00:57:19:21
Xu Min's Mum: Stop talking to me,
I don't want to talk.
00:57:22:12 00:57:24:03
Xu Min's Mum: You're just complaining.
00:57:24:06 00:57:26:05
Xu Min's Mum: It sounds like
there's deep hatred between us.
00:57:26:15 00:57:30:18
Xu Min's Mum: As a mother, this is how I treat her,
I even bought her an apartment.
00:57:30:21 00:57:32:01
Xu Min's Mum: Then I bought her a car.
00:57:32:14 00:57:34:11
Xu Min's Mum: You make me lose face.
00:57:37:16 00:57:40:14
Xu Min's Mum: She complains to others
and sounds like a victim.
00:57:40:17 00:57:42:01
Xu Min: What I said is the truth.
00:57:42:03 00:57:45:11
Xu Min: How did I grow up?
I'm so afraid of you...
00:57:45:14 00:57:46:14
Xu Min's Mum: You're afraid of me?
00:57:46:19 00:57:51:11
Xu Min's Mum: When we sat there, you talked for a long time.
You think I'm good for nothing.
00:57:51:15 00:57:53:16
Xu Min's Mum: You spoke about me so badly.
00:57:53:19 00:57:55:01
Xu Min: No, I don't think that way.
00:57:55:05 00:57:57:09
Xu Min: I told you...
Xu Min's Mum: -Why are you afraid of me?
00:57:57:12 00:57:59:20
Xu Min's Mum: You're afraid that I won't let you...
00:58:00:00 00:58:02:06
Xu Min's Mum: It's my phone,
Dad might be worried.
00:58:02:10 00:58:06:03
Xu Min's Mum: I didn't want you to date the guy
from Nanjing, but you insisted.
00:58:06:06 00:58:09:13
Xu Min: What's wrong with Nanjing?
00:58:09:17 00:58:13:16
Xu Min's Mum: I just don’t think it'll work out.
00:58:13:20 00:58:15:01
Xu Min: How do you know that?
00:58:15:15 00:58:16:19
Xu Min's Dad: Are you coming home?
00:58:16:22 00:58:18:09
Xu Min's Mum: I'm on my way.
00:58:18:12 00:58:19:19
Xu Min's Mum: I'll be there soon.
00:58:20:17 00:58:24:14
Xu Min's Mum: I'm tired of this,
I only hear bad things.
00:58:24:17 00:58:25:11
Xu Min's Dad: Are you coming back?
00:58:25:15 00:58:27:00
Xu Min's Mum: I'm leaving now.
00:58:29:08 00:58:31:01
Xu Min's Mum: I'm leaving, I'm sorry.
00:59:25:11 00:59:29:04
Doctor: How old are you?
Qiu Hua Mei: -I'm 34.
00:59:29:12 00:59:31:20
Doctor: Are you single?
Qiu Hua Mei: -Yes.
00:59:32:02 00:59:37:01
Doctor: Okay, do you have plans
to get married soon?
00:59:37:15 00:59:39:21
Qiu Hua Mei: Not at the moment.
00:59:43:00 00:59:48:16
Doctor: We usually categorize women
over 35 as older.
00:59:49:08 00:59:52:04
Qiu Hua Mei: Older?
Doctor: -Yes, older.
00:59:52:12 00:59:58:01
Doctor: By older we mean that the uterus lining
is no longer in good condition
00:59:59:03 01:00:01:19
Doctor: and might easily cause problems.
01:00:02:04 01:00:06:23
Doctor: The baby will have 5 times
higher chance of having problems.
01:00:08:07 01:00:11:01
Qiu Hua Mei: 5 times higher? That's scary.
01:00:11:15 01:00:16:13
Doctor: Under 35,
we just do some routine check-ups.
01:00:17:03 01:00:21:01
Doctor: But the government has made a regulation
01:00:21:16 01:00:25:16
Doctor: that a woman over 35 should be
under strict monitoring.
01:00:26:23 01:00:29:14
Qiu Hua Mei: Egg freezing is illegal in China, isn't it?
01:00:30:17 01:00:35:18
Doctor: You mean surrogacy?
Qiu Hua Mei: -I heard freezing and surrogacy are both are illegal.
01:00:37:02 01:00:42:21
Doctor: Yes, we don't have a place
that freezes eggs.
01:00:43:23 01:00:46:11
Doctor: We have a sperm bank,
but not for eggs.
01:00:47:06 01:00:51:01
Qiu Hua Mei: So the country doesn't support
egg freezing?
01:00:51:18 01:00:56:23
Doctor: Right now there's no place
that provides that service.
01:00:59:01 01:01:05:05
Qiu Hua Mei: Is the problem that they don't have
the knowledge and expertise? Doctor: -I don't know.
01:01:06:01 01:01:10:23
Doctor: For these kinds of questions, you should
contact the National Information Center.
01:01:15:07 01:01:18:01
Qiu Hua Mei: I heard of some people
who froze eggs.
01:01:21:10 01:01:28:06
Doctor: Yes, they go to Thailand
or the US to do it.
01:01:29:10 01:01:31:09
Doctor: Or Ukraine.
Qiu Hua Mei: -Ukraine? -Yeah
01:02:21:12 01:02:22:16
Gai Qi: Kung Fu Piggy.
01:02:42:11 01:02:43:21
Gai Qi: Yoyo has diarrhea today.
01:02:44:01 01:02:44:14
Aishan: Really?
01:02:44:17 01:02:46:11
Gai Qi: She pooped six times.
01:02:47:12 01:02:48:11
Gai Qi: Let Daddy hold you.
01:02:48:14 01:02:49:11
Aishan: Really?
01:04:50:11 01:04:53:14
Qiu Hua Mei: If you're not married,
you're not normal.
01:04:53:18 01:04:56:04
Qiu Hua Mei: Anyone can badmouth you.
01:04:57:07 01:05:00:13
Qiu Hua Mei: There are voices all around me.
01:05:02:06 01:05:06:23
Qiu Hua Mei: I want to have a life
without those voices.
01:05:07:01 01:05:10:18
Qiu Hua Mei: Just to live my life.
01:05:17:10 01:05:19:20
Qiu Hua Mei: It's hard. I think that...
01:05:20:00 01:05:25:01
Qiu Hua Mei: Like Chinese women in the old days
who had their feet bound,
01:05:25:04 01:05:29:09
Qiu Hua Mei: people in China are like those shoes,
one size too small.
01:05:29:12 01:05:33:04
Qiu Hua Mei: No matter how big your feet are,
you need to squeeze them in.
01:05:33:07 01:05:39:11
Qiu Hua Mei: A woman with a little heart who wants a family
could feel comfortable in those shoes
01:05:39:14 01:05:44:11
Qiu Hua Mei: but I have big feet
and like to run around,
01:05:45:05 01:05:48:11
Qiu Hua Mei: I have so many dreams to fulfill
for my future.
01:05:48:15 01:05:50:03
Qiu Hua Mei: I feel my feet are too big.
01:05:50:06 01:05:53:14
Qiu Hua Mei: I can't fit in them.
01:05:53:18 01:05:55:11
It hurts.
01:05:55:14 01:05:56:21
Qiu Hua Mei: I don't want to wear them.
01:05:57:19 01:06:02:11
Doctor: When you feel this overwhelming pressure
coming towards you
01:06:02:11 01:06:07:04
Doctor: it makes you feel uncomfortable.
01:06:07:07 01:06:13:01
Doctor: Do you have some kind of plan
for your future?
01:06:14:10 01:06:18:10
Qiu Hua Mei: Recently, I've decided to study in France.
01:06:23:17 01:06:26:23
Qiu Hua Mei: I want to study abroad
and get a Master's degree.
01:06:28:04 01:06:32:09
Qiu Hua Mei: Maybe I'm the kind of person
who knows how to struggle.
01:06:32:12 01:06:38:16
Qiu Hua Mei: I think I can rise above terms
like "leftover women."
01:06:38:21 01:06:44:20
Qiu Hua Mei: I criticized this term,
01:06:44:23 01:06:48:16
Qiu Hua Mei: until I felt I have conquered it.
01:06:53:11 01:06:57:08
Qiu Hua Mei: I feel that I have won all alone
and I still feel scared.
01:06:57:19 01:07:01:09
Qiu Hua Mei: I can feel the pressure.
01:07:02:12 01:07:09:15
Qiu Hua Mei: I feel like I'm in the ocean. There's
a flood and the water rises over me,
01:07:09:16 01:07:14:01
Qiu Hua Mei: it makes me feel like I'm going to die.
01:07:14:05 01:07:17:00
Qiu Hua Mei: I feel I could still drown
at any moment.
01:07:17:07 01:07:22:09
Qiu Hua Mei: It's a terrifying feeling in my heart.
01:07:23:21 01:07:25:23
Qiu Hua Mei: I think that...
01:07:26:08 01:07:29:13
Qiu Hua Mei: this is a way to get out of this ocean.
01:07:29:23 01:07:35:06
Qiu Hua Mei: The fundamental solution
is to escape to the land, to shore.
01:07:35:10 01:07:38:01
Qiu Hua Mei: And I still need to run very hard.
01:07:43:21 01:07:46:01
Qiu Hua Mei: Run for my life.
01:07:46:04 01:07:49:09
Qiu Hua Mei: It is, in fact, safe here.
01:07:50:07 01:07:55:08
Qiu Hua Mei: There's a social order here,
nobody would stab me, but I still feel unsafe.
01:07:55:11 01:07:57:04
Qiu Hua Mei: So I have to keep running,
01:07:57:07 01:07:58:08
Qiu Hua Mei: keep fighting.
01:07:58:11 01:08:08:04
Qiu Hua Mei: No matter what other people call me,
I have to fight them constantly.
01:08:08:07 01:08:10:16
Qiu Hua Mei: You're fighting on one hand
and running on the other
01:08:10:21 01:08:12:06
Qiu Hua Mei: because you have too many enemies.
01:08:12:09 01:08:17:05
Qiu Hua Mei: You might beat someone,
perhaps a skilled fighter,
01:08:17:05 01:08:20:01
Qiu Hua Mei: and you beat one after another,
but there are thousands of troops.
01:08:21:07 01:08:25:10
Qiu Hua Mei: The best way is to fight
and run at the same time.
01:08:27:23 01:08:32:11
Qiu Hua Mei: Yes, fight and run
at the same time, I feel...
01:08:35:01 01:08:46:18
Qiu Hua Mei: I could live a wonderful life,
all this is just because I'm not getting married.
01:08:46:21 01:08:48:16
Qiu Hua Mei: I live in a constant fight,
01:08:48:20 01:08:51:14
Qiu Hua Mei: a life of exile.
01:09:25:02 01:09:28:21
Gai Qi: First I'd like to thank the men
who came to my talk today.
01:09:28:23 01:09:33:08
Gai Qi: The film discusses
women's destinies directly.
01:09:33:11 01:09:39:08
Gai Qi: It's about the harassment
and unfairness that women endure.
01:09:39:22 01:09:41:14
Gai Qi: It's about feminism.
01:09:41:15 01:09:47:00
Gai Qi: I highly respect those who step out
and fight for women's right.
01:09:47:09 01:09:51:00
Gai Qi: You have to make an effort,
take the same responsibility as men do.
01:09:51:05 01:09:55:11
Gai Qi: You should have a successful career
01:09:55:15 01:10:00:05
Gai Qi: to support yourself and gain an equal life.
01:10:00:07 01:10:06:01
Gai Qi: Don't ask men to buy a car,
a house and support the family.
01:10:06:09 01:10:08:16
Gai Qi: This is what I'd like to share today.
01:10:08:21 01:10:13:03
Gai Qi: Feel free to ask questions
or express yourselves.
01:10:13:06 01:10:15:06
Gai Qi: Let's communicate.
01:10:15:10 01:10:16:06
Gai Qi: Thank you.
01:10:21:10 01:10:27:01
Woman: How can a woman be a feminist and
think about marriage at the same time?
01:10:27:20 01:10:33:21
Gai Qi: The best thing you can do is
"find your position and hold your position."
01:10:34:00 01:10:36:13
Gai Qi: You find your own position
and stay in that position.
01:10:36:22 01:10:39:21
Gai Qi: In my early 20s, I wanted
to find someone who owned a house.
01:10:40:08 01:10:44:13
Gai Qi: I felt it was a necessary symbol
in my marriage.
01:10:45:08 01:10:48:16
Gai Qi: I had many issues at the time,
my dad was very sick.
01:10:48:21 01:10:56:04
Gai Qi: For a while, I wanted to find
someone to strive with.
01:10:56:07 01:10:58:01
Gai Qi: I was under a lot of pressure.
01:10:58:19 01:11:07:01
Gai Qi: When I turned 30,
I started thinking about it.
01:11:07:03 01:11:10:16
Gai Qi: If my match doesn't show up,
01:11:10:22 01:11:17:05
Gai Qi: shall I stay single
or shall I compromise?
01:11:17:11 01:11:19:23
Gai Qi: I didn't feel the need to have a child,
01:11:20:00 01:11:21:06
Gai Qi: this is what I thought at the time.
01:11:21:09 01:11:23:04
Gai Qi: I didn't like children that much.
01:11:23:13 01:11:29:13
Gai Qi: Suddenly, a younger man
with high qualities showed up.
01:11:30:16 01:11:35:20
Gai Qi: When I was considering
moving to Guangzhou University,
01:11:35:23 01:11:39:08
Gai Qi: he thought it would be nice
to move to another city.
01:11:39:11 01:11:41:16
Gai Qi: He wanted to have a child.
01:11:41:21 01:11:50:08
Gai Qi: Housing prices aren't expensive in Guangzhou,
so he thought it's a suitable place to raise a child.
01:11:50:11 01:11:54:00
Gai Qi: At that time,
it was my compromise for him.
01:11:54:02 01:11:58:01
Gai Qi: I thought, I could give birth
to a baby to satisfy him.
01:11:59:04 01:12:01:11
Gai Qi: Thank you for giving me the chance
to talk about it.
01:12:03:10 01:12:11:08
Woman: It seems you think marriage
is a successful result. Why?
01:12:12:03 01:12:15:19
Gai Qi: I didn't say that marriage
is a successful result.
01:12:15:22 01:12:21:20
Gai Qi: At this current stage, I'm happy.
01:12:21:23 01:12:23:16
Gai Qi: This is how I compare my life.
01:12:23:19 01:12:27:09
Gai Qi: Before I got married,
my life was very interesting.
01:12:28:15 01:12:29:18
Gai Qi: Very rich.
01:12:29:21 01:12:34:05
Gai Qi: After getting married,
my life isn't as interesting.
01:12:34:08 01:12:36:01
Gai Qi: Most of the time, it's boring.
01:12:41:01 01:12:42:19
Gai Qi: But…
01:12:44:04 01:12:45:20
Gai Qi: I've got more happiness.
01:12:46:07 01:12:48:08
Gai Qi: More beauty.
01:12:50:06 01:12:52:18
Gai Qi: That's how it is.
I had to give up something.
01:12:55:06 01:12:58:13
Gai Qi: I never expected a happy ending.
01:12:59:13 01:13:04:04
Gai Qi: At this point, I like living in the present.
01:13:16:17 01:13:17:21
Woman: Long time no see.
01:13:18:01 01:13:20:08
Qiu Hua Mei: I think you look prettier than before.
01:13:22:03 01:13:24:08
Woman: Long time no see!
01:13:25:06 01:13:26:06
Qiu Hua Mei: Do you come by yourself?
01:13:28:18 01:13:30:14
Qiu Hua Mei: Long time no see!
01:13:30:17 01:13:34:16
Qiu Hua Mei: I saw the thing you shot,
what's the name?
01:13:40:00 01:13:43:00
Qiu Hua Mei: I'm leaving next Monday,
01:13:43:02 01:13:45:11
Qiu Hua Mei: but I want to go home first.
01:13:45:11 01:13:46:11
Man: It's a big step.
01:13:46:16 01:13:47:01
Qiu Hua Mei: What?
01:13:47:05 01:13:48:23
Man: All of a sudden, you change.
01:13:49:01 01:13:49:14
Qiu Hua Mei: Yes.
01:13:49:17 01:13:51:16
Man: It's a new page of your life.
01:13:51:19 01:13:53:19
Man: What is your mom's reaction?
01:13:53:22 01:13:55:16
Qiu Hua Mei: My mom didn't have any reaction.
01:13:55:20 01:13:57:15
Qiu Hua Mei: My mom only listens to my dad's opinions.
01:13:57:18 01:13:59:11
Woman: What is your dad's reaction?
01:14:00:10 01:14:05:01
Qiu Hua Mei: When I told them I was leaving,
they were shocked.
01:14:05:04 01:14:07:06
Qiu Hua Mei: "Really? You're leaving?"
01:14:07:09 01:14:09:18
Qiu Hua Mei: It was like that at first.
01:14:09:22 01:14:16:19
Qiu Hua Mei: Two days later, my dad approved firmly.
He said, "Go ahead."
01:14:19:19 01:14:21:06
Qiu Hua Mei: How many glasses do we have?
01:14:28:23 01:14:31:04
Woman: Why did you choose France?
01:14:31:07 01:14:32:09
Qiu Hua Mei: France is my dream.
01:14:32:11 01:14:34:16
Qiu Hua Mei: Because she's a romantic.
01:14:35:10 01:14:36:11
Qiu Hua Mei: Let's drink to that.
01:14:37:06 01:14:38:14
Woman: Great!
01:14:38:18 01:14:40:06
Woman: It's very rare.
01:16:02:18 01:16:08:00
Qiu Hua Mei's Sister: Do you have enough money to live?
Qiu Hua Mei: -Yes.
01:16:09:07 01:16:14:15
Qiu Hua Mei's Sister: If you don't have enough, call me.
I'll wire you some money.
01:16:14:19 01:16:17:15
Qiu Hua Mei: I have enough.
01:16:17:18 01:16:20:21
Qiu Hua Mei's Sister: If you have difficulties, don't be stuck there.
01:16:22:06 01:16:24:01
Qiu Hua Mei's Sister: Is it a famous school?
01:16:24:03 01:16:28:03
Qiu Hua Mei: It's a very good school.
The college is famous in Europe.
01:16:33:22 01:16:36:13
Qiu Hua Mei's Sister: Come back. France is....
01:16:36:23 01:16:38:19
Qiu Hua Mei: It's good to live in France.
01:16:40:15 01:16:45:19
Qiu Hua Mei's Sister: Actually, I'm a little worried.
01:16:45:22 01:16:47:18
Qiu Hua Mei: Worried about me?
01:16:47:21 01:16:49:01
Qiu Hua Mei: What are you worried about?
01:16:49:05 01:16:52:18
Qiu Hua Mei's Sister: I'm worried. Of course, I'm worried.
01:17:00:22 01:17:05:16
Qiu Hua Mei's Mum: You should be careful when you go out.
Watch out.
01:17:05:19 01:17:09:01
Qiu Hua Mei's Mum: You must be attentive.
01:17:09:04 01:17:13:04
Qiu Hua Mei's Mum: If you get lost, don't ask strangers,
ask the police.
01:17:13:07 01:17:16:03
Qiu Hua Mei's Mum: There is police abroad, right?
01:17:16:06 01:17:23:23
Qiu Hua Mei's Mum: Ask the police, not strangers.
You shouldn't trust them.
01:17:28:01 01:17:34:03
Qiu Hua Mei's Dad: I hope you can study well.
01:17:35:17 01:17:38:11
Qiu Hua Mei's Dad: I'm illiterate.
01:17:38:15 01:17:44:11
Qiu Hua Mei's Dad: When I went to school
01:17:44:15 01:17:48:01
Qiu Hua Mei's Dad: my teachers ran away
because of hunger.
01:17:48:04 01:17:51:03
Qiu Hua Mei: Because of hunger?
01:17:51:18 01:17:53:21
Qiu Hua Mei's Dad: All the teachers ran away
because of the famine.
01:17:54:23 01:17:58:03
Qiu Hua Mei's Dad: I supported all of you to go to school.
01:17:58:23 01:18:02:13
Qiu Hua Mei's Dad: I had no son, only daughters.
01:18:03:23 01:18:11:01
Qiu Hua Mei's Dad: At that time, people looked down on you
if you didn't have a son.
01:18:11:04 01:18:15:00
Qiu Hua Mei's Dad: They said, your posterity will be cut off.
01:18:15:02 01:18:18:23
Qiu Hua Mei's Dad: People laughed at me.
01:18:20:09 01:18:24:06
Qiu Hua Mei's Dad: Because I'm competitive
I thought to myself,
01:18:24:23 01:18:29:00
Qiu Hua Mei's Dad: don't look down on my daughters.
They're more useful than your sons.
01:18:29:16 01:18:32:11
Qiu Hua Mei's Dad: They'll be more successful than your sons.
01:18:32:13 01:18:37:03
Qiu Hua Mei's Dad: My dream has come true.
01:18:38:02 01:18:41:03
Qiu Hua Mei's Dad: I was looking forward to it.
01:18:41:22 01:18:43:15
Qiu Hua Mei's Dad: You bring me honor.
01:18:45:10 01:18:52:16
Qiu Hua Mei's Dad: Indeed, you bring me honor.
01:20:18:08 01:20:19:09
Qiu Hua Mei's Dad: Shall I put it here?
01:20:19:11 01:20:20:06
Qiu Hua Mei: Yes.
01:20:21:17 01:20:23:06
Qiu Hua Mei's Dad: All right.
01:20:23:09 01:20:24:06
Qiu Hua Mei's Dad: Let's go.
01:20:30:21 01:20:34:06
Qiu Hua Mei's Mum: You should be happy, don't cry.
01:20:35:05 01:20:38:21
Kid: Have a nice trip.
01:20:46:23 01:20:47:21
Qiu Hua Mei's Dad: Go.
01:20:48:00 01:20:50:21
Kid: Bye bye.
01:20:51:01 01:20:52:00
Qiu Hua Mei's Dad: Have a nice trip.
01:21:01:01 01:21:02:16
Qiu Hua Mei: Give me a hug.
01:21:12:08 01:21:13:11
Qiu Hua Mei's Dad: Okay.